confessions of a young adult

lately i have been toying with the idea of this 

confessional about something that has bothered me 

for quite some time 

as i was thinking about it many thinks came into place

and each and every single idea formed the big picture

just like assembling jigsaw puzzles 

as i was roaming aimlessly through the internet

i came across this captioned picture which was from 

the (daily what) website 

it hit me quite direct that it was true

when we go into university 

we suffer supposedly from the whole system 

how we need to meet up with deadlines and finish projects

and presentations and try and finish up assignments

and the worst monster of all that you need to battle

are exams and quizzes

at that point we only realize that as the main problem that we are facing in our life

and that there is only one objective tied within that (problem that we are facing)

in order to get through it we need to work hard

to eventually (Graduate) 

and then after that is over 

we begin a new chapter 

which is (real world) 

and so at that point it also hit me 

that the teachers and the professors and the instructors

who you pass by at university 

don't actually teach you anything about life !

even though at a certain level 

i would like to believe that they did teach something 

related to life which is working under pressure and dealing with deadlines

that could be something related to (the real world)

but the majority of things that we face in life

are somethings that we learn on the spot

when things happen

and University or (higher level education) has nothing to do with it

clearly the way it is seen is just as relating to the picture

(getting through the easiest part of life) 

 my teachers taught me all about (Marketing) which was my major

they taught me about the market and how to understand it 

and how things go around and what you should do and not do

yes again ... 

Higher education teaches you things about the career you want to go into

but not the things that go behind the curtain 

which are the real things that occur in life

like for example me personally

i have went from one work place to another

in order to try and figure things out

never did i know that life actually can go like this captioned picture (meme)

which i also saw on the web 

courtesy of 9gag (LOL)

as a young adult i know for a fact 

that i personally don't know what i will face in my life

and in my future

for no one has the answers to anything in life

no one knows how things will fall into place

as they fall into place through a divine order 

which we can never really figure out !

but i really do wish that if my education 

geared me more towards handling such situations

yet in life 

i know for sure

you won't be geared for any situation 

unless you face that situation that makes you gear up

to avoid it happening any other time again in the future !

such is life ... 

the relations audit

i believe you have heard the word somewhere

(Audit)

it usually is synonymous with Money !

and accounting activities

and generally defined as 

an evaluation of person, organization,system, process 

enterprise, project, product ... etc

and so its more of an evaluation look towards 

a certain thing 

a more thorough exact inspection 

in order to incur betterment 

to an overall goal 

but have you ever heard of a relations audit ?

some might be doing it knowingly 

and some don't know about it

the term however (relations audit)

is a term only i came up with recently 

(which is free to use by anyone LOL)

due to recent events encountered personally be certain people 

made me realize maybe i need to go through the people i know

and perhaps maybe consider the fact that i would want to continue knowing them?

or perhaps just leave them ?

and that is where the relations audit come into working !

since it is defined as a process of evaluation and (person) 

is included why not do it ?

moreover i decided to take it to action 

* listing of all the people i know

i have listed all the people i know and decided to see

should i continue knowing this certain person or no?

*listing of each person's compilation of qualities 

with each and every single person you know

you would mention and write their qualities 

characteristics, and their behaviors  

*listing of person's qualities in terms of good ones / bad ones

list each person's good and bad things in them

and balance out the good and bad in them

*list the person's history (if there was one)

go through all the things you went with that person you had a relation with

whether its good or bad 

list each and every single situation you have been in 

and each and every single story that has you together

and after all that 

its decision time !

take an evaluative look towards all that you have

compiled with that person

and all that has to do with them

and ask yourself

should you continue with this relation with them?

would they be any good to you some day?

would they improve themselves if they are bad to begin with?

from that you will get to know what to do with those people

and try to figure things out with them 

overall you will be improving yourself

through the people you are surrounded

if you are surrounded with good people or bad people

it will always reflect on you 

and thus comes the reason for the relations audit

to overall improve yourself 

throughout the people you spend your time with

since you are influence partially by the people you are with ! 

Good luck everyone =) 

we need to talk

Truly a terrifying sentence to hear

 ( we need to talk )

the mere thought of it makes you cringe 

and shiver of the fact that you may have done something wrong

and most of the times its because something wrong has happened

or perhaps preventive measures has to be taken in order 

let me share with you all my own personal story

that just happened today

as i returned to my office form a task outside

the person in charge for the office called me in

and said those dreaded words (we need to talk)

and so she sat me down

and started asking questions

next thing you know she is asking me about 

my job and things related to it

and then as the conversation went along 

it was clear she was sharing her own thoughts

about certain shortcomings regarding my job

and that she thought of talking out her concerns

before having troubles coming in

that sort of (we need to talk moments)

are very common and reoccurring in our lives

it can be in our jobs, it can be in our lives

but one thing for sure

sometimes we are faced with either situations

being the one who has to talk

or

being the person who must be talked 

if you ever were the person who has to talk 

*always be soft spoken

*try not to highlight the problem 

*yet do not ignore or go around the problem 

*convey a clear message 

*never (shuffle cards)

and if you were the person to receive the talk 

*be open minded

*do realize that it was as a result of a problem 

*you have the right to choose to either accept what was said

or just ignore all that has been said

*either way you chose from the above point

do also realize that it is because of an issue that has occurred and (the talk) is 

a way of damage control 

* always seek to understand to be understood

with all these points put together

you can overcome the issue 

and mainly discover the root of it

to start over and hopefully reach a solution !

and the goals for this month are (Part 2)

so finally its the month of May 

and we have gone such a long way 

as you have all read recently from my previous 

article about having goals for each month

and so without further delay 

i present to you all my two main goals for this month 

both are set at reasonable and attainable levels

and both are quite fair !

Goals for the month of May

1- start losing weight (HEHE yes i have gone a bit overweight)

2- start going back to video blogging and

keep doing it on a regular basis 

these two simple goals that i have set 

(which of course have more arrangement in the background)

are what i am going to be doing this month

and will be also keeping posted about 

and what are you waiting for?

start setting a goal for yourself today ! 

and the goals for this coming month are ....

ever got tired 

or ever got that feeling that you are not doing

what you always wanted to do?

or that you are not reaching your goals

and not achieving what you wanted to achieve

well of course 

speaking personally 

i regretably am feeling this down

because of all this feeling of not achieving 

its because you tend to be wound up 

with our daily routine 

and feeling overwhelmed each day by

all the tasks

and then when the working day is done

you feel like you haven't achieved anything !

but fear not 

that can be fixed 

perhaps the goals that we set for ourselves are just way to big

or we just don't know how to start it off

all that we need is a bit of breaking down the goal 

achieve smaller minimal portions of it at a certain given time

OR better yet 

develop this (and the goals for this coming month are ...)

type of system 

where you have a list of goals that you would want to achieve 

and then you can asses yourself when the month is ended 

on how well you have done and how are the results coming from the goals coming along

simple ! isn't it?

it should give you a better way in starting off what your goals that you would like to do

and what you would like to achieve

now do recall that some goals 

cannot be achieved in one month

of course its a personal challenge to do it on your own 

if you would want to complete them in one month

but realistically this only is to draw your attention

to having your goals realistically attainable

as in you don't set a high expectation

on your goal and then not be able to achieve a portion of it

and then going into this sad mode

of not being able to achieve it

so of course logically you have to put that into consideration !

other than that go ahead and start setting up you goals 

i will set mine up and share them with you

and of course i will share with you the results of these goals 

and where are they headed and the results from them 

Birthday Confessions

Today i woke up and it was the 

18th of April 2013

my birthday 

its also the day were i woke up and realized

i am now 25 years of age 

i have reached this far at this point

but what really made me think is that i woke up realizing 

i am now at a new turning point in my life

as i have reached 25 years now 

i have reached at the height of youth !

its a point where you are becoming of age 

and becoming into an interchanging point 

everyone says age is just a number

and the true youthful spirit lies within the heart

however maybe it is within me that i started

thinking of certain issues

and thinking even more about it

i admit i am an over thinker 

although deep down in me

i know that i do not have the answers to everything

it should be a self assuring thing to me

but aside from that 

don't we get that type of realization that

we reached that point in our life 

and we still did not achieve what we want in life !

we did not do what we wanted to do in life

or go to the places we want to go 

or do the things that we always wanted to do

i had time to reflect on myself

for my 25th birthday i decided to do that 

and the most importantly 

i also decided that 

Yes i may have realized that

but i also took on myself a decision to do something about it

rather than just sit and mope 

and do completely nothing about it 

as much as this sound logically common sensed 

but a lot of people go through life making that realization

and not doing anything about it

rather letting it slide off 

but i chose the opposite

yes i found myself in a bit of a (Birthday blues)

but i chose for myself to working on solving it

to realize more about myself and to try

and realize what is my calling in life !

and so to all those people out there

who are also going through a similar case of what i am going through 

at any stage in your life

its never to late to actually turn the clock around and do something for a change in your life 

(on a very quirky note to my self Happy birthday Hassan! )

apathetic faith in humanity

a topic which had been hovering for quite a while on my mind

which i have started discussing with a couple of friends

some have expressed some sort of relation to the topic

while others kept a neutral ground towards it

expressing a more open end statement towards it

but it remains a topic which is up to this day

agonizes me at some level 

and keeps me wondering

every single time i get into a certain situation

with certain people

you are reminded by that one thing

that people have lost their humanity in life

because of the things that they do !

big example that happened from my life

which i gladly would love to share them to you all

for you to learn how much people have lost their humanity

in this day and age 

how you kindly (and unfortunately knowing that its a naive move to make) 

help someone out at their time of need 

and willingly give to them 

knowing that the goodness that you do will come around

and that you know (although it is tell you its wrong)

that they will help you back

of course you know what the outcome is going to be

the minute you get into trouble

they will surely bail out on you

and will leave you to be on your own 

its situation like those 

that make you lose your faith in humanity 

even thought you still hang on to that small gleaming light of hope

that you might be helped out

but it is an unfortunate discovery

that you have when you are faced with the reality

that when you are in trouble

you will have to face it all alone !

as much as it is a sad discovery

people have that tendency of 

forgetting their humanity 

when it comes to situations like these

when problems arises and people bail out

it reminds me personally of a quote

which i probably mentioned in a previous article

for mother Theresa 

The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway

that may be one point 

but another point still continues on to be a main problem

which is people will keep on doing what they did in the first place

which is bail out even though they remember you helped them some time in the past !

it is as if we are forced to not help out because we know what the repercussions are

the unfortunate lesson which comes up from this article

as much as i want to sound optimistic 

(yet it keeps on being rather blind optimism)

keep a more cautious helping hand out !

have faith that there still is some sort of humanity left

with people

yet don't cling on to that hope !

knowing how people are in this day and age

as though this may sound so logical 

it is a hard lesson 

for a blindly optimistic person 

like myself

and i know that there are blindly optimistic people out there too !

before they would get into any fickle issues like these

remember that one main lesson !