back again after some time away
with a topic i am sure most of us faced
now it may be on many levels
it can occur like a small pinch, or like a new world war !
well its actually a game some people love to play
and they play it for many reasons
some have apparent reasons
others just like to play it cause its in them to just play that way
i am talking about the guilt card (or the guilt game)
so how do they play this game?
well it starts with a situation cause it needs one
then it is played by just saying sentences like these:
"i always cared for you but you never cared for me"
or like this one
"we never see much of you, do you hate us?"
or like this one
"why do you always run when your phone rings, don't you like sitting with us?"
how about this i bet most of you heard it some time ago
"other kids care for their mothers, you barely do so to me, don't you like me?"
or how about this one, which i just got recently
" you always have appointments on Saturday lunch time, don't you wanna spend some time with us?"
or this one which has a bit of a rough tone
"what's with you? oh you got a headache? dose it prevent you from having some time with us? "
the list will go on forever and ever, and by now i believe most of you got some of those
phrases above, it only means that the guilt card was played on you !
now do not bother because these come for a reason
its just a not so subtle way of saying
"PLEASE CARE FOR US FOR THE LOVE OF GOD"
most of us do not have the gift of expressing the strong feelings
the above ones as an example
thus having to play the card
to just "unstably pinch for attention"
Things can be simple if :
* just say it clearly and outwardly
no need to go about that "sneaky" way of trying to get someones attention cause frankly you are
only making that person grow more stubborn !
*learn what to say before saying it
don't just say it straight flat out to the face
try having some sort of "smooth way" in delivering it to the face
cause you might hurt some feelings too if you said wrongly !
and if you ever get played well ....
you can either play along, or just stop it at its place
or just let it fly off
