Emotional over boarding

Do you recall what i said about

being in a a hype of emotions

when you face that extreme sense of feeling

and emotions

when you can actually go to be extremely positive

or extremely negative 

it all comes down to that saying

"never do anything when you are mad

never do any promises when you are happy"

and they were true 

the human emotion sometimes can be so powerfully uncontrollable

and it can has its proven toll on the human body 

let me share a couple of examples of how one goes through an

emotional down turn and how they react

Situation 1

a person i know who is so goal oriented and determined 

to lose weight and gain a healthy fit body

he has weighed himself and discovered

that he was a bit behind of his overall goal 

and saw it as a setback thus making him feel sad

and as a result he decided to go take it all out 

on training himself and doing harsh exerciser 

Situation 2 

a friend of mine has gotten into a disagreement 

with his significant other, and somehow gotten into a fight with them

and as a result he felt agitated and took it all out on the things around him

he started slamming on doors as a way to vent out his anger

it was so intense that he even his nose bled as a result

so you can see by now sometimes 

one can go on an emotional overboard when they feel down

or even when they feel happy 

they can go extremely apparent in showing their happiness 

and as we also saw from those situations 

one can clearly show it as a side effect on their bodies

bottom line

once you know you can go on an emotional overboard

you can actually avoid it

and avoid the long term health implications that follow with that 

stay safe and stay healthy and stay positive too =)  

Discouragements and Discourages

Ever wondered how come it always happens this way?

ever wondered how it came to happen that there are certain people 

who would just like to "rain on your parade" ?

truth of the matter is that there are always people who are of that sort

people who are always out there to just discourage you 

meaning people who will always have a way to just say 

that what ever you will be doing it will never be good enough 

let me show you a couple of examples 

(personal example which by the way all happened to me) 

these examples are reflected on the fact that i joined a new company

and accepted a new work challenge, in turn these example are peoples reflections towards 

me working in this new company 

Example No.1

a social gathering takes place and a "very close relative" explains

to a guest where i am working at 

(Oh Hassan is working now at this "SMALL UNKNOWN" company)

Example No.2

another social gathering takes place at a cafe, old friends from university sit together

and we exchange conversations on where we are at life

then came the question where we are working at the moment

of course i reply back i started working in a company and started in this new field

as soon as i finished my sentence, a get a complete negative feedback of how

my field is completely "YUCKY" field and that it is completely useless so to speak  

nonetheless he kept on going with completely negative comments

not even a simple good luck that would have sufficed and made the conversation better

Of course after reflecting more into these situations

i thought more about this situation and about this matter 

of course one conclusion on this matter is that 

there will always be discouragements in life

and people who have it a habit in them to discourage others

another thing i have concluded from the matter is that

there are people who never achieved in their lives 

something substantial to be worth mentioning 

once others have reach a place

they discourage them 

BECAUSE

they never saw it in them to achieve

and be successful as you may be

of course other attributing factors to the previous point

is having envious jealousy as a byproduct of not being successful 

and not scoring an achievement

more accurately a "sore looser"

"a  sour grape" and the list goes on

but lets not shed the light on them negatively 

it is hard work and motivation that drives a person to be successful 

so for all those "people who discourage" i would like to just say

have you tried what you are discouraging of?

if not how are you basing your judgement?

moreover i would like to say maybe you are not trying hard enough ;) 

CONCLUSION

lets put it in simpler terms

Haters are always going to hate 

they will discourage you

put you down and tell you 

that what ever you are doing is not good

and that they are the best at what they do

its only there way in saying i am not good enough

and i decided to take it out on you !

Own up to the responsibility

Hello everyone

July came in, the summer got more intense 

and many more opportunities are coming in 

a story i would love to share with you dear readers, its an interesting way 

how the events fell into place

it started a couple of weeks ago, as a friend of mine was calling out

as he wanted me to help him with something 

it was a serious matter 

it was a mistake and as a result help was needed

after sorting things out and after things were sorted out

my friend seemed as if it did not bother him 

next thing was that he done some other mistake 

but it wasn't as serious as the first one

and after the second incident 

there had to be some sort of intervention 

or some way to tell this person (my friend) was that he is going on a roll down 

so recently there was a conversation going on between me and him

Yes i admit it was harsh (because it came out as judgment) 

SIDE LESSON : try to always convey the message more openly as people

may misinterpret it as in my case 

the person thought it was a harsh judgment passed on him 

but if it was not judgment passed by a friend it could be more worse

it would have been a judgment passed by people

and that sort of judgment could have been worse !

to continue along with the story, the main moral of it

was that the owner of the problems

did not seem to have grasped to concept of owning up the problems that he caused

as an attempt from him to try and explain how it is on his side

he tried to do an emotional blackmail 

and tried to play the guilt card 

saying that he already feels guilty enough deep inside him

IMPORTANT NOTE

of course you will feel guilty, because that is your conscious speaking 

it is the moving motive in what will make you grasp the fact

that you made a mistake 

and it will only go once you start making things right 

so that blame feeling is nothing but a way your mind

and heart speaking to you to make the right thing !

The lessons from our story

 (for those who would like to just skip to this part)

you make a mistake 

you feel the blame 

you own up to your mistake and take responsibility to it

yes your friend will judge you 

but would you rather listen to your friends judge you

or listen to a complete stranger slandering you?