the yearly analysis

as a usual tradition

with only few days left for the new year

a thing i always do

(a yearly analysis plan)

where in you look back into the year

and look at all the things that you have gained, the things you lost, the lessons you had learned

and so on and so forth

and so its also my part into looking to what my year has given me

and what i have been able to do

its a way to imrpove one's self

to look into ones achievements

and to grow

along with that you might want to make a rough sketch of draft

for your new year resolution

although doubt dose arise

on whether it will be done or not

besides that point

its always good to see what you have done, and to reflect on what you may do later on

i suggest you all try it, even if you were doubtful of that happening !

opportunities ...

ever thought sometimes

you are lucky and that you are blessed

having opportunities

and someitmes feeling unlucky

that you are not getting anything

and that you are waiting on that opportunity

i learned today

that sometimes in life you need to create those opportunities

in order to get that opportunity and feel lucky

its never a (sit and wait) situation

although it can work

but trust me it never dose

that is now how things go

you need to "break a leg" and take that first foot step

and take that leap of faith

a personal story i share with you all

and let you be the judge

just yesterday

after a long time of not following up

with the local naitonal agency of recruitment

i just went in and made the usual followup

the councerlour their gave me an opportunity

now the rest of the story is unknown for now

since it only happened recently

However

stories of opportunities come up like this

you make that effort

something comes up

and you take your chances

(and make mistakes) hopefully not (LOL)

and fish out on your own

opportunity !

OMG i doomed myself

lets face it ...

we make mistakes

its ok to make mistakes

it actually gives us a story to talk about

when ever we meet up with people !

(like remember that time when i took a course in time management ... it was totally useless)

its issues like that that keeps on coming

we make a decision, we then regret it

like what i have done recently

when i decided to start working at a new place

where then i discovered i probably made a mistake

but it is ok for it to happen

its these mistakes that makes us more wiser people

its such mistakes that makes us
(REACT)
towards doing the right thing !

and thus all you have to do is
seek out that opportunity .......

(to be continued to opportunities article ....)

A HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY ~

it was last year 

Specifically at November 

where it all sparked as an idea 

and then developed 

and so became the very blog that i write in

which was all about life... and stuff ... and everything else that follows 

unfortunately i have gotten busy lately 

that i haven't realized that it passed almost a year

however i announce it now and say

Happy Birthday dear blog 

we have had a wonderful 1 year 

hope for many years to come

many readers to benefit from 

the articles 

and more ideas to spark from and to share from you readers to other readers!

then why am i having second thoughts?

recently i had the chance to take on a new opportunity 

which was of course a new job !

it was a new company and a new task

i was excited at the start i was hoping that i would 

do well in this new job 

and i was hopping for more experience to be gained from it 

new job, new company, new challenge

its just a brand new world waiting for it to be expolred

however


something bothered me in the back of my head
what was it? i wondered for quite some time
why was i feeling a tad bit bothered?


and it was actually right to feel like that
since i am stepping out to the light
stepping out into reality 
and out of that comfort zone which i talked in another article about


it was a new place
with new experiences
and a whole lot of stuff to wait for


its safe to say that it was okay for me to have second thoughts
and that thoughts to get abolished by 
slowly getting familiarized by the whole situation


in the end


its safe to have second thoughts once you stepped out of your comfort zone
only to get used to the new situation that you are in 
and get familiarized with it 

possible yet impossible

The other day I had quite an enlightening conversation, were we (me and my friend) casually

Just talked aboutrandom stuff

When we suddenly talked about our wish lists

Mine was a more (materialistic) wish list

Were I name a few items I would like to acquire

Among those items was a new camcorder

And the other item was actually repairing an item I already had

Aside from that matter

My list had a materialistic sounding to it, items and items came in line

Then my friend started and asked

"Do you want to know what my wish list is?"

And I answered him yes tell me

He then started with his list

* I want to quit smoking

* I want to lose weight

* I want to settle down and start a family

Wow at that moment I kind of felt a big enormous feeling of shame

Since all that I wanted was materialistic stuff

And my friend was wishing for things that were generally bigger

I did feel at that moment that maybe I was a bit immature to think of materialistic issues

He goes on and explains

“I took it as a way in my life to wish for impossible yet possible wishes"

And he was right look at the wishes that he asked for

*to quite smoking (since he was a smoker)

It is possible for him to quit, but it’s impossible to go ahead with it

The nature of the wishes were possible to do, but impossible to undergo and have

The diligence to continue on the hard work to achieve

Yet he wishes to do so and one day achieve such wish

We tend to wish all the time, its ok for us to wish for a bigger house, a fancy car or even

Have those super cool fancy expensive shoes

But it’s always BETTER to have a self improvement wish

For having a better life

And remember; be careful for what you wish for

Cause you just might get it

And when you get it.... well lets take that to another article (=D)  

The greatest human experience (2)

It is such an interesting title

Anything that goes under the tile of greatest human experience

We can learn alot from such human experience

Which makes a good series to talk about?

Or maybe to think of starting off =D

But let’s take it from here and see where it may go

-Back to the article-

Recently I have officially graduated and I have been able to successfully take all the documents

Needed for my graduation

As I went to my university

To finalize all the paper work that was in the way

I passed through the my collage

Seeing all the corners and all the teachers

Passing through all the classes

Brought all of a sudden a sense of nostalgia

A sense of yearning to get back

To those seats and those classes and computer labs

It took me time

To realize that I have missed that place

Even though I have had a (love, hate) relation towards my university and collage

And how now it turned to be a "maximum security facility"

Even though I still like

I still like all those corners, classes, seats and benches

I recall all the times I spent in each and every corner and class

And even though I have to be happy that I have graduated

I still feel sad for leaving a place that grew on me

A place which up until now cannot believe that I have spent

Five years of my life at

Faced many people and faced many stories

Funny and interesting

Sad and happy ones too

We are suppose to grow up to take on new challenges and responsibilities

But we will still yearn to those times

When we were still at the start of it thinking we are all the best at it

Surely they were right when they said

Collage is a defining period in the life of youth

It shapes up our personalities and makes us what we are

It may not prepaid us for what to expect but

It teaches us what we could do if we were ever faced with such situation

And even though I am positive

Many will disagree with me

And disagree that it’s a joyous thing actually

To get rid of a burden

To graduate from University Of Bahrain "UOB"

But I personally will say

I will miss it

Though I know deep down I am happy for getting rid

Of all that hassle

But I will miss the experience

None the less this is how it is suppose to be

We are supposed to grow to see and experience!

The greatest human experience

Now before we venture into the article I would like to say

For starters the article may disappoint some people

For it may be subjective to them

The whole subject of the greatest thing!

However this is just an experience I would like to share with you all

NOW

Moving on to the main subject

It’s amazing what a person can face in life, and it’s more amazing what he finds along the way

Whether it’s something good or its something bad

Personally I have been "and I admit openly"

That I have been blindly optimistic about the good in humanity

In an age where skepticism and negativity over clouds us all

From seeing what is real and in an age where materiality

And looking after one's benefit and interest in life

And in this day and age everything is getting a bit more complicated

Than it used to be before

Where the goodness in people started to fade out ever so quickly

Or sometimes is hidden just for the sake of protecting one's character

From being viciously taken advantage on

Its crazy and its true!

It’s also amazing how some people can be hypocritical

Showing an image, then all of a sudden they are different people

What is amazing in this all?

Is still finding that goodness in someone

And I am talking about pure goodness

Mother Teresa once said "the goodness you do in your life will be forgotten tomorrow, do good anyway"

And it’s amazing how someone might be willing to do that goodness

Even though it will be forgotten tomorrow

The other day

I sat with a friend (who I met for just a very short period of time)

But what was amazing was that

It felt like we knew each other for a very long time

It is as if we have broke the ice already

And there are no boundaries personally

It was also strange

Being "some what" a stranger

We sometimes tend to be a bit more open towards them

And we express more openly towards them

That was the case in this situation,

Where plain raw emotions just came out

"To the extent of crying"

It’s truly an amazing human experience

When you face someone for the first time

Who after only few casual meet ups and gatherings

And random chats

He is ready to vouch in for their newly made friend's safety

At this age where innocence is lost

Faith is gained again

By these few rare people

We may remain skeptical

Towards them

And view them with a suspicious sense

But hey ... life is short

And mistakes are inevitable

Let us all enjoy the pleasure of meeting up with

Such honorable people!

And P.S salamat kaibigan =)

i owe you .... a first impression

the other day i had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine

we were talking about first impressions

and how he had his first impression about me 

he said that "first impressions can be subject to be false and some time true"

he carried on to talk about what he thought when he saw me

"and when i first saw you i thought you weren't the type of person who can carry out

a conversation, or who could be a knowledgeable person" 

aside from what he said, i never realized how true 

this can be until i have been in such situation

recently i met personally a public figure who was

quite popular locally 

the first impression i got personally was when i saw him 

in an event and i concluded as a first impression that he was

a bit too much and a bit over acting  since he was the host of the event

of course that was a very long time ago 

and may how the tables turn and how events of life unfold as you go further

i got the privilege "and i will admit it was such an honor" 

to meet up with him and to talk personally (one on one) 

with him 

at that first situation i was only a spectator 

but now i got the chance to see the other personal side 

that no one sees !

i will have to admit 

First impressions can be false !!! 

that is what i have learned 

we surely don't know much, thus we sometimes tend to be too judgmental

and at time we can be a bit unfair towards people who we meet at first

and who leave quite of an impression towards us

but one thing for sure, 

there is always another chance

as i got the chance to change how i saw the matter

and again first impressions can be wrong 

like what my friend said in the beginning of this article 

and PS ... 

i owe you a first impression =D 

  

WHY ME ?

hello again dear readers

yes i have been abcent for sometime but here i am again

and at this time of abcense from this small humble space

i have been living life, to try and capture something from it

to share it with you all

plentyfull are the things that i have captured

during this time but lets begin with the title of this topic

(WHY ME?)

recently i have personally encountered a few situations,

problems shall we say

and of course, probelms come in bulk

they dont come in single packages

they always come in one problem successing another one

and in the middle of it all

it just makes you scream out from the top of your lungs

(WHY ME?)

why is it that all those problems are happening to me?

and its happening to only me?

how come only me who gets all these problems?

(WHY ME?)

truth be told this happens to all of us

its not just one person who gets problems

we all get problems one way or another

and yes they do come in different ways and forums

but its not always a (WHY ME) situation

from a previous article i have mentioned that dire situations occure

at any moment in life

its how we are all sculptured to be the best people we are

thus the reason for those problems to come in bulk

and to come personally to us is to make us the best that we are !

there is always a reason for the things that happen to us in our life

difficult or easy or whatever situation it is, there is a reason and there is a purpose

its not always a WHY ME situation !

and if it were to be a WHY ME situation,

then ... deffinitly you are looking at the situation from a wrong angel



Time management

It was a personal story

That started all of this talk about "time management"

And it goes a little like this:

A friend of mine sat with me for a cup of coffee and explained

How a "mutual friend" we have, is falling behind from doing the things he want to do

And he keeps on going on and talking about how he fell completely behind of everything

He lacks the time to finish up small minor tasks that can be finished in minimum required time

He lacks the ability to concentrate on a single task

He cannot say no to certain tasks and prioritize thus accumulating alot 

He dose not have sense of time where everything is somewhat lost

And for him to plan for something he would need time to do it

Then gets back to do the job

This is one typical situation is a “book case” for a time management issue

And time management is just as easy as “ABC”

With few basic guidelines to set personally

Simple prioritization of tasks

With determination and concentration on the task being worked on

And some sort of knowledge of the day ahead and the tasks that may follow

You can avoid such situations

Were everything is lost and everything is disorganized

The worst thing to have in this issue

Is to lose things because of lacking time management skills

When the problem is simple and can be solved and is avoidable

%5 - %95

First of all dear readers

a very happy "Belated" eid to you all

may the blessings of the almighty be bestowed upon you all

Secondly moving on to our main topic of discussion

and to our subject of writting and sharing

i recently recalled an interesting meeting, boring topic to be honest

and surely it was a scam i was being convinced to get into

besides that point

the interesting part which i recalled from that conversation

was when the person talking started off with this phrase which i quote

" there are two catagories which the people in the world fit in , %5 and %95"

and she explained and elaborated more on the topic saying :

%95 are the people who live life on a very mundane routine

eat- sleep -work ..etc

%5 are the people who want to live off on the extreme

doing something a bit different for a change

this small part i recall, from all "uninteresting" attempt into trying to sell me a concept

and this part is the only part which i still like to think about more, and now to elaborate it more into an article

it seems to be true, we tend to fit either or into these two catagories, we either live off life on the extreme

or live it like the %95 percent of the population on this planet

(eat - sleep - work ...etc)

some feel more inclined towards living off life safely

and its due to their own perspective in this issue

and ofcourse some are inclined towards living in the extreme trying to live each day

as if its the last day on earth

life objectives play a part in this matter too, since its those objectives that give out a reason

to live each day in life, not just to live it off (eating, sleeping, working)

to think about it we all will try and explre that part sooner or later

since we might fall eventually into the prison of mundane routine

and come to think about it, life is short

love, play, enjoy, laugh, forgive and forget

your mere exsitance on this planet (or in this life) is limited

living the bulk of it doing all that mundane activities is wasteful

Get an objective to live for in life, and then work for it ! 

comfort zones

first i would like to apologize for it may seem 

that i haven't posted this article earlier 

i recently started my "Industrial Training" 

and i have now spent my first week there 

all in all it was a great first week which certainly is an experience to talk about 

and it goes like this :

-a week earlier-

i signed up for my industrial training at the same company my dad is working in

so they call me up and say that i will be starting off right about the beginning of the week

much to my surprise my father came to me and said: Guess what? you will be also working with me

in the same section i am in !!!!

there i thought hard about the last sentence that was said 

(the same section i am in) 

the only thing that went through my mind was

this could be the best thing i have ever heard or ...

the worst thing that could ever happen !

thus the week began and i started work 

i felt so miserable for some reason i thought maybe

i should have been somewhere else

i should have been doing something else

something better

anything in anywhere at least not this !

however, as the days went by at the job i discover slowly how it was not bad after all 

yeah sure there is that shivering feeling that you have family just a cubicle away from you

and that you will have to go to work and see family there !

but all in all this was suppose to happen 

i was suppose to step out of the "comfort zone"

we need to face challenges and see them as opportunities !

we tend to be like that 

we tend to want predictability and stability

we tend to seek out that monotonous life 

which has order,stability, regularity, predictability!

we end up having a boring uninspired life, then we seek out that opportunity to get out of this vicious thing

that we went into, however we then feel that sudden fear of the uncertain, and that feeling that you want to crawl back to the monotonous routine you used to have !

WELL THEN IT"S TIME TO SEPT OF OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE

you are bound to step out any time you might as well prepare your self to it 

so start going out of your comfort zone and get rid of all your fears

don't miss out on what life might bring you

you can start off small 

try something new, it can be anything, it could be a

- new hair cut

-taking on new hobbies

-change the activities that you used to do

its all this small "painless" activities that can help you step out of that comfort zone 

and remember you also need a proper mind set, its the proper thinking and positive attitude, that also helps out in such situation which keeps you going on !

Miss-communications

we all know the process of communications

where by one message travels through a medium to get to the receiver by a sender

to begin our topic let us check out this conversation which occurred via (Instant messaging) 

Person A : All i wanted is for you to care, and not to criticize

I really did not want to hear anyone tell me that i should have known better !

Person B: again you are nagging about nothing and going on with the drama !

Person A : i am sorry i may have said a lot but i just said what was on my mind 

and spilled what is in my heart 

Person B : I really don't have the time for this

BYE

This snippet of a conversation that happened recently to someone i know, who came to me with confusion 

and a bit of sadness too , this dear readers is the root of miss-communications which can occur on any level

friendship, relationships, spouses, even in the work place

it happens because of not disclosing information, or even misinterpreting information 

that and (not to fully blame it) technology had its hand in it, due to the advent of High speed communications

(Emails, Instant messaging ...etc) 

communicating got devalued from the face-to-face communication 

it has became what is known as (asynchronous) wow that is a big word LOL

that is a factor since what happened in that conversation occurred through instant messaging 

and due to that, we would tend to do alot of mistakes through out the process

which can actually make it more worse

since we as human beings, at such situations we tend to assume the worst scenario 

Example : He must be hiding something !!!

and we would leave out other factors and other possibilities and focus on the

worst scenario 

(Person B might be having a rough day and probably did not need more stress)

its actually the latter, that we need the most at such situations

we need to have that open mind, we need to have that logic to keep us from wandering off

to worst possible scenarios thus decisions !

However we would not be able to fend those thoughts off 

but we can enlist them as one possibility out of numerous possibilities !

(again there could be many reasons)

to avoid such situation in the future one can also avoid "Demanding" 

demanding is just one way of bossing around in relationships 

and is a miss-communicated work objective

(if a worker cannot see that, it is his job to work as he his required too)

 sympathy and understanding along with consideration

must be taken into account to be able to have an effective communication 

and also we should remember 

what is said can be different from what you think you understood 

those go into two extremes (Saying and understanding what really was said in the process)

one should also put into consideration that sometimes along the process one can get carried away 

emotionally ... which is a big mistake because mistakes (by default) occur within the heap of the moment

in the end it pays to just listen and see what is wrong 

to finally reach into an understanding and to solve the problems !

PS have a blessed Ramadhan dear readers =)