comfort zones

first i would like to apologize for it may seem 

that i haven't posted this article earlier 

i recently started my "Industrial Training" 

and i have now spent my first week there 

all in all it was a great first week which certainly is an experience to talk about 

and it goes like this :

-a week earlier-

i signed up for my industrial training at the same company my dad is working in

so they call me up and say that i will be starting off right about the beginning of the week

much to my surprise my father came to me and said: Guess what? you will be also working with me

in the same section i am in !!!!

there i thought hard about the last sentence that was said 

(the same section i am in) 

the only thing that went through my mind was

this could be the best thing i have ever heard or ...

the worst thing that could ever happen !

thus the week began and i started work 

i felt so miserable for some reason i thought maybe

i should have been somewhere else

i should have been doing something else

something better

anything in anywhere at least not this !

however, as the days went by at the job i discover slowly how it was not bad after all 

yeah sure there is that shivering feeling that you have family just a cubicle away from you

and that you will have to go to work and see family there !

but all in all this was suppose to happen 

i was suppose to step out of the "comfort zone"

we need to face challenges and see them as opportunities !

we tend to be like that 

we tend to want predictability and stability

we tend to seek out that monotonous life 

which has order,stability, regularity, predictability!

we end up having a boring uninspired life, then we seek out that opportunity to get out of this vicious thing

that we went into, however we then feel that sudden fear of the uncertain, and that feeling that you want to crawl back to the monotonous routine you used to have !

WELL THEN IT"S TIME TO SEPT OF OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE

you are bound to step out any time you might as well prepare your self to it 

so start going out of your comfort zone and get rid of all your fears

don't miss out on what life might bring you

you can start off small 

try something new, it can be anything, it could be a

- new hair cut

-taking on new hobbies

-change the activities that you used to do

its all this small "painless" activities that can help you step out of that comfort zone 

and remember you also need a proper mind set, its the proper thinking and positive attitude, that also helps out in such situation which keeps you going on !

Miss-communications

we all know the process of communications

where by one message travels through a medium to get to the receiver by a sender

to begin our topic let us check out this conversation which occurred via (Instant messaging) 

Person A : All i wanted is for you to care, and not to criticize

I really did not want to hear anyone tell me that i should have known better !

Person B: again you are nagging about nothing and going on with the drama !

Person A : i am sorry i may have said a lot but i just said what was on my mind 

and spilled what is in my heart 

Person B : I really don't have the time for this

BYE

This snippet of a conversation that happened recently to someone i know, who came to me with confusion 

and a bit of sadness too , this dear readers is the root of miss-communications which can occur on any level

friendship, relationships, spouses, even in the work place

it happens because of not disclosing information, or even misinterpreting information 

that and (not to fully blame it) technology had its hand in it, due to the advent of High speed communications

(Emails, Instant messaging ...etc) 

communicating got devalued from the face-to-face communication 

it has became what is known as (asynchronous) wow that is a big word LOL

that is a factor since what happened in that conversation occurred through instant messaging 

and due to that, we would tend to do alot of mistakes through out the process

which can actually make it more worse

since we as human beings, at such situations we tend to assume the worst scenario 

Example : He must be hiding something !!!

and we would leave out other factors and other possibilities and focus on the

worst scenario 

(Person B might be having a rough day and probably did not need more stress)

its actually the latter, that we need the most at such situations

we need to have that open mind, we need to have that logic to keep us from wandering off

to worst possible scenarios thus decisions !

However we would not be able to fend those thoughts off 

but we can enlist them as one possibility out of numerous possibilities !

(again there could be many reasons)

to avoid such situation in the future one can also avoid "Demanding" 

demanding is just one way of bossing around in relationships 

and is a miss-communicated work objective

(if a worker cannot see that, it is his job to work as he his required too)

 sympathy and understanding along with consideration

must be taken into account to be able to have an effective communication 

and also we should remember 

what is said can be different from what you think you understood 

those go into two extremes (Saying and understanding what really was said in the process)

one should also put into consideration that sometimes along the process one can get carried away 

emotionally ... which is a big mistake because mistakes (by default) occur within the heap of the moment

in the end it pays to just listen and see what is wrong 

to finally reach into an understanding and to solve the problems !

PS have a blessed Ramadhan dear readers =)