Miss-communications

we all know the process of communications

where by one message travels through a medium to get to the receiver by a sender

to begin our topic let us check out this conversation which occurred via (Instant messaging) 

Person A : All i wanted is for you to care, and not to criticize

I really did not want to hear anyone tell me that i should have known better !

Person B: again you are nagging about nothing and going on with the drama !

Person A : i am sorry i may have said a lot but i just said what was on my mind 

and spilled what is in my heart 

Person B : I really don't have the time for this

BYE

This snippet of a conversation that happened recently to someone i know, who came to me with confusion 

and a bit of sadness too , this dear readers is the root of miss-communications which can occur on any level

friendship, relationships, spouses, even in the work place

it happens because of not disclosing information, or even misinterpreting information 

that and (not to fully blame it) technology had its hand in it, due to the advent of High speed communications

(Emails, Instant messaging ...etc) 

communicating got devalued from the face-to-face communication 

it has became what is known as (asynchronous) wow that is a big word LOL

that is a factor since what happened in that conversation occurred through instant messaging 

and due to that, we would tend to do alot of mistakes through out the process

which can actually make it more worse

since we as human beings, at such situations we tend to assume the worst scenario 

Example : He must be hiding something !!!

and we would leave out other factors and other possibilities and focus on the

worst scenario 

(Person B might be having a rough day and probably did not need more stress)

its actually the latter, that we need the most at such situations

we need to have that open mind, we need to have that logic to keep us from wandering off

to worst possible scenarios thus decisions !

However we would not be able to fend those thoughts off 

but we can enlist them as one possibility out of numerous possibilities !

(again there could be many reasons)

to avoid such situation in the future one can also avoid "Demanding" 

demanding is just one way of bossing around in relationships 

and is a miss-communicated work objective

(if a worker cannot see that, it is his job to work as he his required too)

 sympathy and understanding along with consideration

must be taken into account to be able to have an effective communication 

and also we should remember 

what is said can be different from what you think you understood 

those go into two extremes (Saying and understanding what really was said in the process)

one should also put into consideration that sometimes along the process one can get carried away 

emotionally ... which is a big mistake because mistakes (by default) occur within the heap of the moment

in the end it pays to just listen and see what is wrong 

to finally reach into an understanding and to solve the problems !

PS have a blessed Ramadhan dear readers =)