Let go and move on

How many time have you told yourself 

You want move on but couldn't?

And discover the thing that you really want to get rid of

and move on is the thing that you find right in front of your face everyday!

How many times have you told yourself that you have moved on from something

but the truth of the matter is that

you still are haunted by what is considered the ghost of the past!

But today tell all that goodbye

face all that you have been bothering you 

and tell it to disappear for good

YES 

take the courage today to face fearlessly your doubts of moving on

and move on

I doubted myself many times

but finally found myself capable of moving on 

(From what ever that was bothering me)

Its not about bitterness

but rather having the ability to make peace with the past

and completely move on

It has been a topic that was bothering me a lot

but thankfully i was able to just let it go

For real this time!

The importance of being Frank and Ernest

Yes!

It is of great importance to be Frank and Ernest too.

You may ask how can you be Frank and Ernest

I tell you it is easy

And you can learn a great deal from these two! 

You see Frank is actually "frank"

and Ernest is "Honest" 

(If you got the joke by now) 

Its almost impossible if you think about it for a second

to overcome human emotions and try to be frank and honest

That basically is the high price that you must pay if you are 

frank and honest with people 

As there is a thin line between what is considered appropriate to share

and disclose and what is inappropriate 

add to that also the fact that

if you prefer to be honest and frank with that person in private as compared to showing it openly

Yes the truth is quite an expensive and a rare commodity 

people would pay high prices to get the truth 

but most of the time people are looking for the convenient truth

rather than the hard truth

BUT STILL 

it always is important to be Frank and Ernest 

just not the exact and complete image of being Frank and Ernest

There is more to a person than just the first impression

Happy holidays and Merry Christmas everyone!

Remember those certain times in our lives when we meet a person for the very first time

And as time went by and situations got you both together

and had situations where you got to see more of this person

and then you came to the conclusion that this certain person goes by the collection of habits that he constantly dose!?

Or more accurately the "First impression" that they give out! 

Well i bet all of us had those!?

How many times i went by the first impression of a certain person

like once i got the first impression of a person who was in our gathering

being infamous for perfectionism 

i personally thought that this person will quite a challenge as a perfectionist

and will be much of an annoyance.

much to my assumption i was mistaken

Or how about that time

When i saw a person who seemed to be quite domineering and very vocal

of course i assumed that this person is quite a "tough cookie" 

who seems to also be a very pompous person as well

WRONG 

he was nothing of that.

That is true, if we do not posses knowledge of an anonymous thing

we tend to pass on harsh judgments 

but as we go along we discover there is more to a person than just

the first impression that they have!

So just remember 

first impression are never lasting!

give some time and see the person for who they are. 

Putting people on a pedestal ?

Lets begin this article with a story!

Once upon a time

 there was a naive dude 

who did not know much about the world 

or the happenings in it

One day he met a fellow who seemed well leveled

and quite an interesting person to share an intellectual conversation with

little by little 

there were a lot in common 

and there was a share of great conversation all along

little by little

things were discovered about this fellow person

little by little

new behaviors started to come up 

little by little 

this fellow started showing his true colors!

and they were certainly not pleasant colors

There was a great deal of apple polishing 

thinking that it was normal but it was wrong!

There was a great deal of admiration 

to a degree of honoring on a pedestal

which was also wrong!

however the mistake was done 

and it was conceded that 

this person was put on a pedestal 

but it was his wrong place!

Have you ever get that sort of situation?

Where a nice person comes along and you 

Act nice with them (Although it is fishy)

Treat them with love (Although they do not deserve it)

Yes we stumble upon that sort of people from time to time

Nice on the outside but questionable on the inside

But the main lesson one learns is that

NEVER

put a person on a pedestal no matter how well you think you may know them!

you may think that they are nice!

you may think that they are trustworthy

you may think many things

but never ever put them up!

it all comes down to the right expectations towards people

BUT

never ever put them on a pedestal!

only to know that they will fall is only heart wrenching moment.

You do what you need to do which is be nice!

but that is all that you can do from your side.

Good luck! 

Thank god for failure!

Yes why are you wondering?

I am grateful to failure!

Thank god it exists! And thank god we have it

Yes we hate loathsomely to fail 

or to be even subject to fail 

but failure is a blessing 

(Which of course is in disguise) 

not a a lot can recognize it.

Failure basically is the unsuccessful attempt in achieving something

Its natural that we have all that BIG goals and BIG dreams 

that we hope and wish to achieve one day

yet that ghost visits us and haunts us and then!

WHAM

you fall on the ground face down!

(i know that is harsh but that is just a figure of speech)

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO FAIL?

For these simple three points

Its important to fail in order for you to 

* Learn

* Grown

* Realize

- Learn- 

To have a better understanding of how things actually work!

- Grow -

To have a much more mature sense of life and a more sensible way of thinking

- Realize -

To be able to help you realize that you have something after all

But the main thing you need to also know about failure

is that it is a more than helpful INDICATOR

to make you REALIZE and from then on let you LEARN and then you head off to life and GROW

You need to taste failure to know success! 

When the brain loses logic

Let me confess to this problem that i have personally!

Oh my god ... stop doing that!

I should not think of this!

What if this happens?

What if that happens?

Well if this happens then this will happen

Well if that happens then that will happen 

I shouldn't be thinking about this

No i should be thinking about this!

Perhaps i am over thinking

No i am not over thinking

That dear readers is just a fragment of what happens in my head

What is that? 

You may ask 

And i answer you back and say 

It is a common problem shared between the most of us

Yes LOGIC departs our brain sometimes

That is true, it takes a flight to somewhere and leaves us to shambles 

and in a complete state of disaster

We cannot help it but be this way sometimes

We can say that its "Human Nature"

Yet we can choose the "MORE LOGICAL" 

way in dealing with such issues

Yes this will be a somewhat constant part of our lives

Having that particular moment of this "Mind chaos" 

Yet all can be controlled

How to control this mayhem?

The key here is LOGIC its self

* If you have a wild thought popping up fight it with logic!

* If you happen to have a negative thought fight it with logic!

Prove that thought wrong!

I do recall that i wrote previously how

over thinking can be devastating

and yes it can be devastating

I do remember a dear friend of mine how she had her own way in combating these sort of thought!

She chose to take a stand to her own brain and she decided to be decisive with it

( I WILL NOT THINK ABOUT THAT THOUGHT AND I WILL STOP THIS SEQUENCE OF THOUGHTS) 

lets take control and be decisive with our brains!

Good luck ;)   

The fuel of persistence

Life is one of the many things that we seem to want to understand

Or try to want to know what we want from it 

Either way life is still a mystery to us all.

We see ourselves immersed into the things we do

we fall into that pit of routine  

Sometimes we find ourselves at a crossroad 

where we are forced to take up that one decision

And unfortunately we also sometimes see ourselves

at a place where we did not intend to be in.

no matter where we go in life

or how we go about in life

there is one thing that keeps us alive and that keeps us going!

That one thing that makes us wake up in the morning face the challenges of the day

and stand 10 feet tall 

You may ask what that thing is!?

And i tell you

its Dreams!

Your dreams, yes the things that we desire and internally screams out to us all 

wishing to be accomplished!

Yes dreams are the fuel of persistence in life

with all its challenges and hopes for a better tomorrow 

Dreams are the fuel that makes us want to grab that better tomorrow

and hope for it from today

But remember there is a price for this (Dream) that you would want to achieve

Will you be able to make it?

Only you can tell 

and only you can give the story

and hopefully achieve the dream that you always had

Remember in the end ...

Dreams are the fuel of persistence in life

and only YOU can keep the dream running and burning!