am fine ... i guess

sometimes we never realize what we are doing

until we get that "smack on the head" 

or 

have someone make us realize 

which is of course better than the first scenario !

it happened to me, some time ago 

i was out and i was going to meet up with some mates to finalize a university project

where coincidently i bumped into another friend 

we exchanged greetings and then one of my team mates for the project 

came and was also a mutual friend and so the three of us had an interesting conversation

where somewhere along the way i said this sentence :

"i am fine i guess" 

not realizing that i said it, one of the friends brought it up in a very humorous way 

saying : every time we ask you how are you you say your fine ... i guess !

at that moment i realized that i said that sentence 

and a rush of thoughts came racing through my brain 

one of the thoughts where " AM I PREDICTABLE ?" 

surely the matter is beyond predictability 

after that incident it actually made me realize a lot

about myself and how i see the world around me

after that, i started trying to change myself or at least 

think of that incident and try to change myself 

and again this has a lot to do with the power of realization

which i talked about in a previous article 

to be able to realize and then to be able to read the signs 

or read the writing on the wall 

then to take actions!

some of us are lucky to get that smack 

or more better have someone makes us think !

Note: this article i would love to dedicate this article

to the person who really made me realize 

and would like to say 

"Thank you Ahmad, it might have been a humorous reply but it made me think" 

social phobia

may sound strange 

but is actually serious and true

surely human beings have phobias and such

which are developed through biological, environmental and cognitive causes

one phobia which grasped my attention 

"which happened because of a situation"

is the social phobia

yes it dose sound funny to be scared of social 

activities or social interactions, but surely that is something real

and probably some of us encountered some sort of situation

within this context

people not being capable of handling a conversation 

fear of approaching people 

even if it was to just ask them a question like 

"what time is it?"

or even feeling awkward seeing an old acquaintance

you had a conversation with before 

in an occasion or even in a public place

and avoiding them or not approaching them to greet them

these situations can be indicators to having something of the problem

but when it reaches to the point of fearing to leave the house

then definitely there is a bigger problem

with the first situation it is normal somehow

but of course not good 

we do tend to feel a bit uneasy among certain people

or through certain events where you meet new people

some of us have the ability to handle such situations

some don't however its not much of a problem

but if it reached to the point of fearing to leave the house

and even fearing to be around people or being around

crowds of people the problem has to be dealt with !

having social skills actually exert and show a more

confident outlay 

and people actually tend to get attracted to confidence