you are your own happiness

you are your own happiness

yes that is right 

you are your own happiness

you are responsible for it

you are fully held accountable for it

you are what makes you happy in this world 

and what ever you do translates to that happiness 

let me share with you all a personal story that will reflect

and mainly explain the idea of how you are the happiness of your self

last year 

i have help out a friend with their own business 

thinking that maybe that is the right thing to do 

and since it is the best thing to do which is to stand by them 

i have decided to be with them

for a period of time with them

i have discovered things

that put me in a challenging position

where in i felt maybe perhaps that is not the thing for me

and so i decided that i will just lift off and go 

and seek a place where i would be happy in 

and where i will find myself in a lot less of a troubled position 

much to my surprise 

i have gotten the opportunity 

it was the suitable opportunity

as soon as i wanted to step into it

everyone else stepped in to intervene 

and to stop me

telling me that they had certain expectations about me

mainly my own friend had all those expectations about

how i was suppose to be with them

and i was suppose to grow expand that business together 

and so what i thought of back then

as a good idea 

was to just let the opportunity pass over 

since i am stuck with what i had at that time

and that it would (hurt them)

and so i have sacrificed and put my own 

happiness over theirs 

not knowing what may come

not knowing that 

i am suppose to defined for myself

and defined for what may represent my happiness

and my own full right towards accepting whatever opportunity

at what ever given time and place !

the hard lesson about this story 

after swallowing the hard truth 

and learning from this lesson 

is that after doing that 

(sacrificing your happiness for others)

you bear the bitterness 

of missing out on that opportunity

and you will feel the disappointment from their reactions

moral of the story 

Never given 

and NEVER sacrifice your happiness 

in place of others 

when it comes to your own befit !

you will regret it later on 

and will bear the bitterness of it 

cycle and recycle

its a popular phrase that is widely used 

which says 

(he who spends 40 days with certain people becomes one of them)

which practically defines how one can influence you in a way

were you become just like them 

some time ago 

i knew a person who really was stubborn 

and had his own way of acting 

which makes him the way he is 

not much of a good person 

yet not that type of person who would hurt anyone

he had really bad habits 

which were showing everyday 

and he was in direct contact with me

and so sometimes it felt as if he was rubbing whatever 

behaviors he is having towards me personally

and thus i was once faced with a situation with that person

were in he was in his (high horse) acting the way that he acts

and not even being tactful and soft spoken
(even if the problem is aggravating him personally)
we were on a telephone conversation
and we have been facing a problem
it was a big problem
however it did not give him the right to act the way he did

and so
something which i admit i should not have done
which was get in vibe with how he acts
as he was screaming i started screaming too

and though the telephone conversation ended
and i stepped back to observe the situation

i realized it was a cycle !
a thing were he (the person i knew) has been acting in a certain way all along
then recycling his attitudes towards me

again comes to that point which i said in the beginning
we can be easily influenced by one another
we can get what other people have
and then reuse it to other people

it is once you think about it
a cycle and recycle thing

were you would cycle a behavior you have
then pass it on to someone else
then that person
recycles that behavior to someone else
and so on and so forth

and so we can come to a conclusion

if you exhibit good behavior
naturally you will pass on good behavior

if you don't then you surely will pass on
that bad behavior

and you will soon realize everyone is up on your business
because you are acting that way !

simply comprehensible right?
not a big issue nor is it a
huge thing

well then start doing it !

you are on your own

hello again dear readers

and so this year started off very quickly 

that now we are in February

a topic which i have started last month talking about kick starting your year

with an achievement

and how you can just go about it and do it

one thing which was not mentioned

or rather not much of a spoken lesson 

about that topic 

is that one way or the other 

(YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN)

people sometimes have false expectations about 

how sometimes we may or might accompany people with us

through out our lives

achieving dreams together and basically

being partners in that achievement

when it comes down to your own personal dream

your own personal achievement

you are the rightful owner to them

you are the one and only person that will move towards it

and achieve it

people in life they may listen to your dreams

they may encourage you

they may support you

they may help you out

and most probably 

they might steal it from you 

and thus you are left to be on your own !

this is a message to all the creative achievers out there 

(Keep your dreams, and go forth with it alone !)

small reminder

Dear readers

Thank you all for passing by to this humble space 

which i have created a couple of years ago

and as a token of appreciation 

and as also an initiative to reach out 

towards all the readers 

i have mentioned before that i am opening the chance for everyone 

to share up and contribute

with personal stories and lessons

so if you have a lesson you would like to share

or you have a personal story you have been through

or if you just would like to say hi

just send in an email 

hassan.alalgami@gmail.com 

read on and live life 

Thank you all =)