confrontation in conflict

Its natural to disagree

sometimes in order to agree you have to disagree

sometimes we tend to hold opinions in passion

and within the heated discussion of different opinion 

conflict occurs

it is all natural for people to disagree

and in the same time hold that certain opinion with passion 

and eventually lead to conflict of those opposing opinions

that is all natural due to the fact of having different personalities

and perceptions towards life in general and towards

thus translating all those in different vibes
and send out those vibes outwardly

we do come up to the main point

confrontation ,,,

many dread the fact that confrontation
(although it is the healthy way in dishing feelings, emotions, thoughts out)

that is because not everyone can handle a confrontation
which could lead to a negative outcome
if it is not talked out in a diplomatic way

although the right way is to take the confrontation way
but one must not take it especially
if the person who they are confronting are of unpredictable nature

(i know from a personal experience i won't (and i can't) dream on confronting that certain person who is known to have a very irritable disposition and who is also prone to just take it personally and also turn whatever topic and pin point a finger towards me)

* If you have the Diplomatic ability
* If you have the strength and courage
* If you can see beyond the minor irrelevant talk back from a person who confronts you

then you are safe to go ahead and confront

but if you fear for your life (the way i do)
then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE !

and take these preventive measures
(especially if you are facing a person of an irritable disposition)

* Avoid hitting sensitive points such as the famous "card shuffling" move
it only worsens the situations

* Try to take more creative options
although they only last temporarily

* learn more diplomatic ways in confrontation

* avoid stacking up feelings as they accumulate
 and then the main point which is suppose to be conveyed gets lost
within all the other things that accumulated

wishing you all a good confrontation =)
and a safe battle (LOL)

You have all the rights to be foolish and stupid, of course you will bear the consequences

Happy Eid Al-Adha

Dear readers from all over the world

may you have a blessed day where ever you are

the other day a random conversation with a stranger 

got me to think about happy endings

some do prefer to rely on that fuzzy warm heart happy ending 

which reassures the reader to a very happy ending that would occur eventually

(a debatable issue but nonetheless its something that dose reassure a person)

and some prefer to have an alternative ending

an open ending that has open possibilities 

it got me to thinking that

its always something for sure people would prefer to not risk it

and play it safe and thus gain that happy ending

and for some 

having a little risk is OK 

and we all know the more risk involved with something

the more the gains are from that thing

now the main part which made me think is that

in all this risk game that one makes

its a perfect balance 

its like a chess game cause one move you make effects the whole

game play that you have 

it is as if one must play it wisely 

and play it right 

or else its (checkmate) ! 

so is your life in the bigger picture we are trying to show

you have all the rights to be foolish

and be stupid

do foolish stupid things in life

however you are the master of your own demise !

go and do what ever you would want to do in life

however be responsible of what comes up from that later

seems easy enough of a lesson to try and learn

but quite hard to really apply 

since most of us tend to forget about it 

but then learn it again when it hits again

but fear not, for not everything in life can have bad consequences 

if it did not bring to you what you wanted

it taught you what you should know to avoid 

and not to do that mistake again 

it breaks you !

based on an article (which if i was not mistake) 

i wrote in, about the reasons of why we have bad things going on in our lives

yes it is quite often that we have many bad things that happen and occur in our lives

which are varying in the extent of damage that it brings

or in the extent of effect that it makes (The bad event) in our lives

now we do argue quite a lot 

on the event and how come this event had to happen to us

it goes in a varying degree of argument 

how we deal with the (bad event)

sure it is bad and sure it really is heavy on our hearts once this thing happens 

the other day i was watching a TV show 

which dealt with issues of this extent 

and then the presenter of the show said something that made me wonder

and made me write this article

You have be Broken 

bad things come along 

in order to break you

then from after that

it reconstructs you again

and as plain and simple as that sentences came out

it made me wonder

yes sometimes the bad event can be devastating 

(the loss of a loved one, traumatic event ...etc)

which is something incomparable to the minor problems or events

but yes sometimes you have to be broken in order to relive again

and to reconstruct yourself again

i still am searching for the answer to why you have to be broken

but i know i won't be able to find the answer 

but you would know for sure that no one has the answer for anything in life

and we are yet to discover many things

but in order for us to discover things 

we have to be broken 

in order to be reconstructed again !