emotional blackmail

we all know the normal blackmailing of a person don't we?

plainly its a situation where you have dirt on someone

and you take advantage of it, in exchange of something from them 

or mainly to comply with what they want 

and is there such a thing as (emotional blackmail)

surprisingly (obviously) Yes there is !

i have read it from a book 

(why men lie and women cry)

a whole chapter about (emotional blackmailing) 

and how sometimes people tend to lean on to it 

as a solution 

some may realize that they are doing it

some may not realize at all !

now as the definition above for black mail states

the same applies for (emotional blackmail)

but has different dimensions

lets take an example 

Joe and Sam are good friends, Joe tends to be the type of person that would 

have wild fun and sometimes just go crazy occasionally, one day as a result of one of his crazy night outs

he had a minor accident with his fathers expensive car, he approaches sam knowing he is his good friend

sam was at tight situation however he approached him and asked for help

at the beginning he resisted 

and said that he could not help out, he can gladly do so but he could not at that time

and then the glorious statement came in from Joe

( i cannot believe what i am hearing, if you were a good friend i would guess that you would have help out) 

that there is emotional blackmail 

know what is going on

* The victim : Sam

*offender : Joe

* cause (or what he wants) : cash to help out in joe's situation 

*weapon of use : feelings and the friendship the two have together

usually it can also go through the threat of not going to give more emotions

or devotion towards the relationship

and i believe some of us if not most of us

have faced such issues

now that you know it

you can actually work to counter it !

and to avoid 

Love yourself 

(since you would know your self and know you are over all a good person and that

what ever it is happening at that time is just something that was beyond your reach)

stay logical

(of course if one and one is two, it will stay that way no one can ever invent an answer

that is beyond understanding or an answer that is unreasonable)

and good luck to you all :)