seek to understand, to be understood

a famous habit from a very famous author

(Stephen Covey) 

may god rest his soul 

which made me think a lot to it

its part of the 7 habits of highly effective people 

and this particular habit is the 5th habit

which is actually 

quoted

"Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood"

but what dose it mean?

well basically its a self explanatory statement 

in this day and age

misunderstanding one another is just

the big deal that is happening quite lately 

He said

She said

they said 

and everyone say something 

thus you fall into misunderstandings

thus how do you eliminate that in general ?

seek to understand first !

you don't just seek to understand 

but you seek to first know what he is trying to convey to you

as the message that he wants to send in

since everyone has one thing in their minds 

they are the right people and that they have

every single right to have everything

and to have their own say

without anyone else's 

(dictator much? lol) 

but not a  lot feel this way

yes you have a point 

and yes you would want to convey it to 

your opposing party 

but in order to exchange your point with your opposing party 

or person

you must seek to understand them 

and from understanding them 

you will be able to look into what you say

and then exchange back 

your opinion 

after that you know you will be

understood !