we need to talk

Truly a terrifying sentence to hear

 ( we need to talk )

the mere thought of it makes you cringe 

and shiver of the fact that you may have done something wrong

and most of the times its because something wrong has happened

or perhaps preventive measures has to be taken in order 

let me share with you all my own personal story

that just happened today

as i returned to my office form a task outside

the person in charge for the office called me in

and said those dreaded words (we need to talk)

and so she sat me down

and started asking questions

next thing you know she is asking me about 

my job and things related to it

and then as the conversation went along 

it was clear she was sharing her own thoughts

about certain shortcomings regarding my job

and that she thought of talking out her concerns

before having troubles coming in

that sort of (we need to talk moments)

are very common and reoccurring in our lives

it can be in our jobs, it can be in our lives

but one thing for sure

sometimes we are faced with either situations

being the one who has to talk

or

being the person who must be talked 

if you ever were the person who has to talk 

*always be soft spoken

*try not to highlight the problem 

*yet do not ignore or go around the problem 

*convey a clear message 

*never (shuffle cards)

and if you were the person to receive the talk 

*be open minded

*do realize that it was as a result of a problem 

*you have the right to choose to either accept what was said

or just ignore all that has been said

*either way you chose from the above point

do also realize that it is because of an issue that has occurred and (the talk) is 

a way of damage control 

* always seek to understand to be understood

with all these points put together

you can overcome the issue 

and mainly discover the root of it

to start over and hopefully reach a solution !