Kick starting 2014

Here we are!

January is almost over and we should all be kicking off 2014

One thing that attracted my attention the other day was 

" Bucket lists "

Wanting to do things, achieve things before the end of that certain set of time

As much as i thought that this idea is just really corny

I had to change my thought and beliefs to realize that a bucket list is really something worth living through!

You have that "goal" which you want and you go after it

Simple as that !

So Lets start off having a bucket list in life

of all the things that you like that you want to achieve

lets kick start this year with a bucket list

But that is of course one thing among other things as well.

from my belief that you might as well aim low and achieve better than aiming high and not achieving

A more better concept of being capable to achieving high without the need to feel like you did not achieve anything at all

Break down your goal!

Something easy isn't it?

Instead of saying for example 

( I WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT) 

and then failing at doing so

You can instead try and see what you can achieve with this over all end goal

As in you set objectives 

Your overall goal is to lose weight but how are you going to go about and lose weight?

- Through joining a club

- Through Careful dieting 

ETC

that would be the first step 

a second step would be to set minor objectives as well!

Like achieve (X) amount of loss in the first stage 

and then progress on! 

Its all easy isn't it?

Yet we tend to not do it....

Because the first step is always the hardest ....

But once you start off its all smooth sailing.

A totally belated yearly analysis

So its 2014 now, isn't it?

Wow how time flies by and how it always seems like yesterday 

when what ever recent events took place!

Surely there were a lot to learn from "the yesterday" which is last year which is 2013 !

As my yearly analysis comes along which was suppose to take place right before the new year,

this time it took quite an interesting turn as i could not find spare time to sit down and write up my analysis.

Basically, for those who do not know

my yearly analysis goes through the main major events that took place in the last year

write up the lessons learned, and then move on to the next year with faith and zeal!

Let's begin! 

2013 has been a year of many opportunities and naturally a year filled with ups and downs!

- Opportunities will always pop up and will always look very glamorous when they do, however one must be able to have a leveled thinking, not all opportunities can be great opportunities or that one must realize that each opportunity comes with challenges!-

- moving on is a difficult thing to do, you can take your time in moving on, however there will come a time when you need to take action in moving on and deciding that you will make your move  never look back!-

- Not all that glitters is gold, we are attracted to the exterior and totally forget the interior, what ever may attract us holds interesting material on the inside, make sure to always consider that the interior may not always fit the exterior!-

- You need to realize that its ok to cut off people who aren't of substantial use to you, cut it off, let go, live and let live!- 

- Listen to your gut instinct, if it really is pushing you and trying to say something listen carefully, observe what it tries to say, objectify it and try either support it or prove it wrong! - 

- Never give in to negative thoughts, if you ever do it will take the best of you- 

- Always reconnect with all the people who had an important presence in your life - 

Most importantly 

Never lose that hope in the better tomorrow that you hope to want! 

Have a great 2014 ahead and may it be a year of goodness.

Let go and move on

How many time have you told yourself 

You want move on but couldn't?

And discover the thing that you really want to get rid of

and move on is the thing that you find right in front of your face everyday!

How many times have you told yourself that you have moved on from something

but the truth of the matter is that

you still are haunted by what is considered the ghost of the past!

But today tell all that goodbye

face all that you have been bothering you 

and tell it to disappear for good

YES 

take the courage today to face fearlessly your doubts of moving on

and move on

I doubted myself many times

but finally found myself capable of moving on 

(From what ever that was bothering me)

Its not about bitterness

but rather having the ability to make peace with the past

and completely move on

It has been a topic that was bothering me a lot

but thankfully i was able to just let it go

For real this time!

The importance of being Frank and Ernest

Yes!

It is of great importance to be Frank and Ernest too.

You may ask how can you be Frank and Ernest

I tell you it is easy

And you can learn a great deal from these two! 

You see Frank is actually "frank"

and Ernest is "Honest" 

(If you got the joke by now) 

Its almost impossible if you think about it for a second

to overcome human emotions and try to be frank and honest

That basically is the high price that you must pay if you are 

frank and honest with people 

As there is a thin line between what is considered appropriate to share

and disclose and what is inappropriate 

add to that also the fact that

if you prefer to be honest and frank with that person in private as compared to showing it openly

Yes the truth is quite an expensive and a rare commodity 

people would pay high prices to get the truth 

but most of the time people are looking for the convenient truth

rather than the hard truth

BUT STILL 

it always is important to be Frank and Ernest 

just not the exact and complete image of being Frank and Ernest

There is more to a person than just the first impression

Happy holidays and Merry Christmas everyone!

Remember those certain times in our lives when we meet a person for the very first time

And as time went by and situations got you both together

and had situations where you got to see more of this person

and then you came to the conclusion that this certain person goes by the collection of habits that he constantly dose!?

Or more accurately the "First impression" that they give out! 

Well i bet all of us had those!?

How many times i went by the first impression of a certain person

like once i got the first impression of a person who was in our gathering

being infamous for perfectionism 

i personally thought that this person will quite a challenge as a perfectionist

and will be much of an annoyance.

much to my assumption i was mistaken

Or how about that time

When i saw a person who seemed to be quite domineering and very vocal

of course i assumed that this person is quite a "tough cookie" 

who seems to also be a very pompous person as well

WRONG 

he was nothing of that.

That is true, if we do not posses knowledge of an anonymous thing

we tend to pass on harsh judgments 

but as we go along we discover there is more to a person than just

the first impression that they have!

So just remember 

first impression are never lasting!

give some time and see the person for who they are. 

Putting people on a pedestal ?

Lets begin this article with a story!

Once upon a time

 there was a naive dude 

who did not know much about the world 

or the happenings in it

One day he met a fellow who seemed well leveled

and quite an interesting person to share an intellectual conversation with

little by little 

there were a lot in common 

and there was a share of great conversation all along

little by little

things were discovered about this fellow person

little by little

new behaviors started to come up 

little by little 

this fellow started showing his true colors!

and they were certainly not pleasant colors

There was a great deal of apple polishing 

thinking that it was normal but it was wrong!

There was a great deal of admiration 

to a degree of honoring on a pedestal

which was also wrong!

however the mistake was done 

and it was conceded that 

this person was put on a pedestal 

but it was his wrong place!

Have you ever get that sort of situation?

Where a nice person comes along and you 

Act nice with them (Although it is fishy)

Treat them with love (Although they do not deserve it)

Yes we stumble upon that sort of people from time to time

Nice on the outside but questionable on the inside

But the main lesson one learns is that

NEVER

put a person on a pedestal no matter how well you think you may know them!

you may think that they are nice!

you may think that they are trustworthy

you may think many things

but never ever put them up!

it all comes down to the right expectations towards people

BUT

never ever put them on a pedestal!

only to know that they will fall is only heart wrenching moment.

You do what you need to do which is be nice!

but that is all that you can do from your side.

Good luck! 

Thank god for failure!

Yes why are you wondering?

I am grateful to failure!

Thank god it exists! And thank god we have it

Yes we hate loathsomely to fail 

or to be even subject to fail 

but failure is a blessing 

(Which of course is in disguise) 

not a a lot can recognize it.

Failure basically is the unsuccessful attempt in achieving something

Its natural that we have all that BIG goals and BIG dreams 

that we hope and wish to achieve one day

yet that ghost visits us and haunts us and then!

WHAM

you fall on the ground face down!

(i know that is harsh but that is just a figure of speech)

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO FAIL?

For these simple three points

Its important to fail in order for you to 

* Learn

* Grown

* Realize

- Learn- 

To have a better understanding of how things actually work!

- Grow -

To have a much more mature sense of life and a more sensible way of thinking

- Realize -

To be able to help you realize that you have something after all

But the main thing you need to also know about failure

is that it is a more than helpful INDICATOR

to make you REALIZE and from then on let you LEARN and then you head off to life and GROW

You need to taste failure to know success!