breakdown of communication, breakdown of relationship

a personal story happened lately

to a friend of mine

he felt quite sad from the fact that how it went by 

he started dating 

and he was excited

from the fact that there was chemistry between them

and there was some sort of clicking 

and so this friend had outings with this girl

and started getting a bit serious 

until the whole thing reached into a point

where both were caught in busy situations

both were having special situations

where they were needed 

and were occupied completely 

however in the same time they were busy

there were certain signs that 

the girl was trying to give out
which indicated that she was no longer
interested in the guy

but in the same time the guy (my friend)
tried to ignore them on the basis
that they may be wrong signs
or that they may be not conclusive evidence
that they are genuine

as time passed (a duration of a week)
there were minor (chit chats) happening between the two
and it seemed as if the girl did lose interest in him
and dose not want to talk to him
and also lost what ever feelings she has towards him

yet the guy (being a person who takes the initiative)
kept on trying to bridge the gap
and make a statement that he is there
and he is present

Sadly came the moment of truth
where in the girl decided to  

confront (not face to face rather face to screen)
and say the following points which i have summarized

* i lost interest in you due to this breakup of communication
* i felt no feelings towards you during this time of distance apart from each other
* you are a nice guy but i found myself not ready to be in a relationship
* we can still be friends if you want to

those were the points that we taken during the breakup process
which happened to the guy on an instant messaging application !
rather than face to face

apart from those reasons (which will be discussed later on in another article)

it came to my thinking on how can this happening
how can a breakup of communication lead to a breakup in a relationship ?

but then i recalled something i read the other day !

in the process of falling in love there is the part where you
all the excitement sort of dwindles
and then comes the challenging part

how to keep the love sparkle between the two parties
if there was an urge from either parties to just keep it going
then its that part where they both see that they love each other and they want to keep it going

but if there is only one person who wants to keep it alive
and another who wants to end it
or who isn't trying to do anything
then it would be pointless

one must let go of that situation
and keep on going !

a breakdown of communications can be a contributing factor to a breakup of relationships
but certainly it is not a reason for a breakup
its only a test to see if a relationship can withstand
hurdles and that can stand distance

just make sure to read the signs before jumping to any conclusions
=)