YOU REALLY DON'T NEED TO PLAY THE GUILT GAME

back again after some time away

with a topic i am sure most of us faced

now it may be on many levels

it can occur like a small pinch, or like a new world war !

well its actually a game some people love to play

and they play it for many reasons

some have apparent reasons

others just like to play it cause its in them to just play that way

i am talking about the guilt card (or the guilt game)

so how do they play this game?

well it starts with a situation cause it needs one

then it is played by just saying sentences like these: 

"i always cared for you but you never cared for me"

or like this one

"we never see much of you, do you hate us?"

or like this one

"why do you always run when your phone rings, don't you like sitting with us?"

how about this i bet most of you heard it some time ago

"other kids care for their mothers, you barely do so to me, don't you like me?"

or how about this one, which i just got recently

" you always have appointments on Saturday lunch time, don't you wanna spend some time with us?"

or this one which has a bit of a rough tone

"what's with you? oh you got a headache? dose it prevent you from having some time with us? "

the list will go on forever and ever, and by now i believe most of you got some of those

phrases above, it only means that the guilt card was played on you !

now do not bother because these come for a reason

its just a not so subtle way of saying 

"PLEASE CARE FOR US FOR THE LOVE OF GOD"

most of us do not have the gift of expressing the strong feelings

the above ones as an example

thus having to play the card

to just "unstably pinch for attention"

Things can be simple if :

* just say it clearly and outwardly 

no need to go about that "sneaky" way of trying to get someones attention cause frankly you are

only making that person grow more stubborn !

*learn what to say before saying it

don't just say it straight flat out to the face

try having some sort of "smooth way" in delivering it to the face

cause you might hurt some feelings too if you said wrongly !

and if you ever get played well ....

you can either play along, or just stop it at its place 

or just let it fly off 

greatest human experience (3)

another amazing thing

happened to me the other day 

which just shows how great it is the human experience 

which may differ sometimes

it could be a happy thing, it could be a sad thing

but one thing is for sure 

is that it really is such a great experience

and that most of the time we learn from these experiences 

these teach us quite a lot

and reminds us of lessons that we have learnt before

but have forgotten by time

its just amazing how sometimes

people can come into our lives and shine light to it

surely they are totally amazing people

who i am pretty sure might leave our lives dim 

if they were to leave

but yesterday as i was having an interesting conversation

which somewhere in the middle

reminded me of one of those forgotten lessons in life

of remembering that our time is limited in life

we all are bound to leave at some point in time

and that we should all make the best of everything we have

at the present time ....

it was a lesson hard to swallow  

for it came from a loved one 

where deep down the fear of loss haunts us constantly

but remembering that lesson

that one important lesson eases the pain 

(although it will still remain)

hoping for a better tomorrow 

knowing it will still sting 

that is what we only have at this point in time

though this article of the "greatest human experience"

seems a bit ... incoherent 

and may seem a bit dark

it has quite a (sad side to it)

it is dedicated to those lessons that we have

long forgotten

and that we have remembered them by a loved one 

(a message intended for that person)

Never forget to take good care of yourself !

signed by all the people who care about you 

the yearly analysis

as a usual tradition

with only few days left for the new year

a thing i always do

(a yearly analysis plan)

where in you look back into the year

and look at all the things that you have gained, the things you lost, the lessons you had learned

and so on and so forth

and so its also my part into looking to what my year has given me

and what i have been able to do

its a way to imrpove one's self

to look into ones achievements

and to grow

along with that you might want to make a rough sketch of draft

for your new year resolution

although doubt dose arise

on whether it will be done or not

besides that point

its always good to see what you have done, and to reflect on what you may do later on

i suggest you all try it, even if you were doubtful of that happening !

opportunities ...

ever thought sometimes

you are lucky and that you are blessed

having opportunities

and someitmes feeling unlucky

that you are not getting anything

and that you are waiting on that opportunity

i learned today

that sometimes in life you need to create those opportunities

in order to get that opportunity and feel lucky

its never a (sit and wait) situation

although it can work

but trust me it never dose

that is now how things go

you need to "break a leg" and take that first foot step

and take that leap of faith

a personal story i share with you all

and let you be the judge

just yesterday

after a long time of not following up

with the local naitonal agency of recruitment

i just went in and made the usual followup

the councerlour their gave me an opportunity

now the rest of the story is unknown for now

since it only happened recently

However

stories of opportunities come up like this

you make that effort

something comes up

and you take your chances

(and make mistakes) hopefully not (LOL)

and fish out on your own

opportunity !

OMG i doomed myself

lets face it ...

we make mistakes

its ok to make mistakes

it actually gives us a story to talk about

when ever we meet up with people !

(like remember that time when i took a course in time management ... it was totally useless)

its issues like that that keeps on coming

we make a decision, we then regret it

like what i have done recently

when i decided to start working at a new place

where then i discovered i probably made a mistake

but it is ok for it to happen

its these mistakes that makes us more wiser people

its such mistakes that makes us
(REACT)
towards doing the right thing !

and thus all you have to do is
seek out that opportunity .......

(to be continued to opportunities article ....)

A HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY ~

it was last year 

Specifically at November 

where it all sparked as an idea 

and then developed 

and so became the very blog that i write in

which was all about life... and stuff ... and everything else that follows 

unfortunately i have gotten busy lately 

that i haven't realized that it passed almost a year

however i announce it now and say

Happy Birthday dear blog 

we have had a wonderful 1 year 

hope for many years to come

many readers to benefit from 

the articles 

and more ideas to spark from and to share from you readers to other readers!

then why am i having second thoughts?

recently i had the chance to take on a new opportunity 

which was of course a new job !

it was a new company and a new task

i was excited at the start i was hoping that i would 

do well in this new job 

and i was hopping for more experience to be gained from it 

new job, new company, new challenge

its just a brand new world waiting for it to be expolred

however


something bothered me in the back of my head
what was it? i wondered for quite some time
why was i feeling a tad bit bothered?


and it was actually right to feel like that
since i am stepping out to the light
stepping out into reality 
and out of that comfort zone which i talked in another article about


it was a new place
with new experiences
and a whole lot of stuff to wait for


its safe to say that it was okay for me to have second thoughts
and that thoughts to get abolished by 
slowly getting familiarized by the whole situation


in the end


its safe to have second thoughts once you stepped out of your comfort zone
only to get used to the new situation that you are in 
and get familiarized with it