and the goals for this coming month are ....

ever got tired 

or ever got that feeling that you are not doing

what you always wanted to do?

or that you are not reaching your goals

and not achieving what you wanted to achieve

well of course 

speaking personally 

i regretably am feeling this down

because of all this feeling of not achieving 

its because you tend to be wound up 

with our daily routine 

and feeling overwhelmed each day by

all the tasks

and then when the working day is done

you feel like you haven't achieved anything !

but fear not 

that can be fixed 

perhaps the goals that we set for ourselves are just way to big

or we just don't know how to start it off

all that we need is a bit of breaking down the goal 

achieve smaller minimal portions of it at a certain given time

OR better yet 

develop this (and the goals for this coming month are ...)

type of system 

where you have a list of goals that you would want to achieve 

and then you can asses yourself when the month is ended 

on how well you have done and how are the results coming from the goals coming along

simple ! isn't it?

it should give you a better way in starting off what your goals that you would like to do

and what you would like to achieve

now do recall that some goals 

cannot be achieved in one month

of course its a personal challenge to do it on your own 

if you would want to complete them in one month

but realistically this only is to draw your attention

to having your goals realistically attainable

as in you don't set a high expectation

on your goal and then not be able to achieve a portion of it

and then going into this sad mode

of not being able to achieve it

so of course logically you have to put that into consideration !

other than that go ahead and start setting up you goals 

i will set mine up and share them with you

and of course i will share with you the results of these goals 

and where are they headed and the results from them 

Birthday Confessions

Today i woke up and it was the 

18th of April 2013

my birthday 

its also the day were i woke up and realized

i am now 25 years of age 

i have reached this far at this point

but what really made me think is that i woke up realizing 

i am now at a new turning point in my life

as i have reached 25 years now 

i have reached at the height of youth !

its a point where you are becoming of age 

and becoming into an interchanging point 

everyone says age is just a number

and the true youthful spirit lies within the heart

however maybe it is within me that i started

thinking of certain issues

and thinking even more about it

i admit i am an over thinker 

although deep down in me

i know that i do not have the answers to everything

it should be a self assuring thing to me

but aside from that 

don't we get that type of realization that

we reached that point in our life 

and we still did not achieve what we want in life !

we did not do what we wanted to do in life

or go to the places we want to go 

or do the things that we always wanted to do

i had time to reflect on myself

for my 25th birthday i decided to do that 

and the most importantly 

i also decided that 

Yes i may have realized that

but i also took on myself a decision to do something about it

rather than just sit and mope 

and do completely nothing about it 

as much as this sound logically common sensed 

but a lot of people go through life making that realization

and not doing anything about it

rather letting it slide off 

but i chose the opposite

yes i found myself in a bit of a (Birthday blues)

but i chose for myself to working on solving it

to realize more about myself and to try

and realize what is my calling in life !

and so to all those people out there

who are also going through a similar case of what i am going through 

at any stage in your life

its never to late to actually turn the clock around and do something for a change in your life 

(on a very quirky note to my self Happy birthday Hassan! )

apathetic faith in humanity

a topic which had been hovering for quite a while on my mind

which i have started discussing with a couple of friends

some have expressed some sort of relation to the topic

while others kept a neutral ground towards it

expressing a more open end statement towards it

but it remains a topic which is up to this day

agonizes me at some level 

and keeps me wondering

every single time i get into a certain situation

with certain people

you are reminded by that one thing

that people have lost their humanity in life

because of the things that they do !

big example that happened from my life

which i gladly would love to share them to you all

for you to learn how much people have lost their humanity

in this day and age 

how you kindly (and unfortunately knowing that its a naive move to make) 

help someone out at their time of need 

and willingly give to them 

knowing that the goodness that you do will come around

and that you know (although it is tell you its wrong)

that they will help you back

of course you know what the outcome is going to be

the minute you get into trouble

they will surely bail out on you

and will leave you to be on your own 

its situation like those 

that make you lose your faith in humanity 

even thought you still hang on to that small gleaming light of hope

that you might be helped out

but it is an unfortunate discovery

that you have when you are faced with the reality

that when you are in trouble

you will have to face it all alone !

as much as it is a sad discovery

people have that tendency of 

forgetting their humanity 

when it comes to situations like these

when problems arises and people bail out

it reminds me personally of a quote

which i probably mentioned in a previous article

for mother Theresa 

The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway

that may be one point 

but another point still continues on to be a main problem

which is people will keep on doing what they did in the first place

which is bail out even though they remember you helped them some time in the past !

it is as if we are forced to not help out because we know what the repercussions are

the unfortunate lesson which comes up from this article

as much as i want to sound optimistic 

(yet it keeps on being rather blind optimism)

keep a more cautious helping hand out !

have faith that there still is some sort of humanity left

with people

yet don't cling on to that hope !

knowing how people are in this day and age

as though this may sound so logical 

it is a hard lesson 

for a blindly optimistic person 

like myself

and i know that there are blindly optimistic people out there too !

before they would get into any fickle issues like these

remember that one main lesson ! 

breakdown of communication, breakdown of relationship

a personal story happened lately

to a friend of mine

he felt quite sad from the fact that how it went by 

he started dating 

and he was excited

from the fact that there was chemistry between them

and there was some sort of clicking 

and so this friend had outings with this girl

and started getting a bit serious 

until the whole thing reached into a point

where both were caught in busy situations

both were having special situations

where they were needed 

and were occupied completely 

however in the same time they were busy

there were certain signs that 

the girl was trying to give out
which indicated that she was no longer
interested in the guy

but in the same time the guy (my friend)
tried to ignore them on the basis
that they may be wrong signs
or that they may be not conclusive evidence
that they are genuine

as time passed (a duration of a week)
there were minor (chit chats) happening between the two
and it seemed as if the girl did lose interest in him
and dose not want to talk to him
and also lost what ever feelings she has towards him

yet the guy (being a person who takes the initiative)
kept on trying to bridge the gap
and make a statement that he is there
and he is present

Sadly came the moment of truth
where in the girl decided to  

confront (not face to face rather face to screen)
and say the following points which i have summarized

* i lost interest in you due to this breakup of communication
* i felt no feelings towards you during this time of distance apart from each other
* you are a nice guy but i found myself not ready to be in a relationship
* we can still be friends if you want to

those were the points that we taken during the breakup process
which happened to the guy on an instant messaging application !
rather than face to face

apart from those reasons (which will be discussed later on in another article)

it came to my thinking on how can this happening
how can a breakup of communication lead to a breakup in a relationship ?

but then i recalled something i read the other day !

in the process of falling in love there is the part where you
all the excitement sort of dwindles
and then comes the challenging part

how to keep the love sparkle between the two parties
if there was an urge from either parties to just keep it going
then its that part where they both see that they love each other and they want to keep it going

but if there is only one person who wants to keep it alive
and another who wants to end it
or who isn't trying to do anything
then it would be pointless

one must let go of that situation
and keep on going !

a breakdown of communications can be a contributing factor to a breakup of relationships
but certainly it is not a reason for a breakup
its only a test to see if a relationship can withstand
hurdles and that can stand distance

just make sure to read the signs before jumping to any conclusions
=)

Reconsider, but also consider !

in life and in relationships specifically 

there comes a time when there are pinpointing 

signs that tell you things are going well 

or things are not going well 

sometimes when ever you get the message from life

or your significant other 

it can be one message

that is completely unknown 

or just plain vague 

it feels as if it is a hidden message 

that you need to decipher 

or needs decryption

    and sometimes you come to that pinnacle point

where you are in a cross road 

you feel that you need to pick a road

and you would arrive into what they call 

a reconsidering point !

yest reconsidering 

you come to reconsider the current situation that you are in

should you do plan A 

should you opt for plan B

or what about choose Road B instead of Road A

you would reconsider and evaluation

the situation 

and the all the relating matters to it

before intending on a decision 

and thus you have the (reconsidering) part 

now it is something naturally occurring to do

to reconsider the situation you are in

and probably think of solutions

or alternative routes to it

it is as a natural mechanism 

when you are in a certain situation 

you would feel like you need to do something

and in that point

it is when you start reconsidering 

but also on the other hand

when you reconsider your situation 

try to also consider the situation its self

meaning you may have read the signs wrongly 

you may be mistaken 

you may have thought that it was 

going bad

but actually everything is going fine

and thus comes the part 

(but also consider) 

and there you have it folks

reconsider, but also consider 

Good luck everyone :) 

seek to understand, to be understood

a famous habit from a very famous author

(Stephen Covey) 

may god rest his soul 

which made me think a lot to it

its part of the 7 habits of highly effective people 

and this particular habit is the 5th habit

which is actually 

quoted

"Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood"

but what dose it mean?

well basically its a self explanatory statement 

in this day and age

misunderstanding one another is just

the big deal that is happening quite lately 

He said

She said

they said 

and everyone say something 

thus you fall into misunderstandings

thus how do you eliminate that in general ?

seek to understand first !

you don't just seek to understand 

but you seek to first know what he is trying to convey to you

as the message that he wants to send in

since everyone has one thing in their minds 

they are the right people and that they have

every single right to have everything

and to have their own say

without anyone else's 

(dictator much? lol) 

but not a  lot feel this way

yes you have a point 

and yes you would want to convey it to 

your opposing party 

but in order to exchange your point with your opposing party 

or person

you must seek to understand them 

and from understanding them 

you will be able to look into what you say

and then exchange back 

your opinion 

after that you know you will be

understood !

a hype of emotions

how can we defined emotions?

can it be the outlet of how we feels?

we feel a certain feeling

and then its translated into an emotion?

or can it be simply a state of mind

which translates how we feel from the inside

and has that one common thing

an adjective to describe 

and that certain emotion can actually have that certain effect

on our behavior 

and sometimes there is that certain (Hype)

that we can get our self into 

which is caused by emotions

that certain excessive abundance of emotion

can get you sometimes into troubles

now a hype of emotion if you did not know by now

is that certain stage where your emotions are just

running extremely high that they are causing you

to be illogical in terms of your behavior 

since it is true there is always that sense of 

interference when emotions are running high

one can tend to do something they might regret later on

and thus comes the statement 

(Never make a decision when you are angry

Never make promises when you are happy)

as you can plainly see that 

just being into those two extremes of emotions 

you can put yourself in that situation 

and so i give you that little 

piece of advice

for you all to think about it

and to try and just realize 

that you need to never put yourself

in that hype of emotions 

and make a mistake !