New Explorations

I got the inspiration to write for this article

from a toastmaster speech 

for a new member to the local club in which i attend regularly

the speech mainly talked about exploration

expanding out and exploring the world 

in which we live in 

and he continued on to mention that exploration

has been taken to a new level

where not just land and waters were being explored

but to reach out beyond the horizon 

to explore in space 

and at that point 

it got me ...

i added after the end of the speech 

a small little remark 

in which gave me the inspiration to this article

and i said 

" we may have explored lands and waters, however there is a place we may have not explored, or we choose to be a bit reluctant to explore ... which is our self's"

our inner self

what makes us the way we are

what we are consisted of 

it is true,

that we tend to not give much attention 

when it comes to exploring ourselves 

to try and figure out what we really are

our strengths and weak points 

and what could be our potentials 

we tend to do so 

sometimes directly or indirectly

because we generally 

do not know about ourselves

or about the matter mainly 

how to explore ?

where to start?

its totally fine 

just realize the fact that you need to explore yourself

and then all rest will follow up later on

and all will unfold to clear its self within time

and you will then discover how to explore yourself 

i will also be joining you all dear readers and try to explore myself too

and perhaps share more point from after this article !

OMG i doomed myself - Part 2

last year i wrote an article

in the exact same title 

within almost the same time frame 

and since most of my articles
are somewhat related to each other
(actually they are always related to each other)

i decided to share with you my thoughts in a rather different
method of expression
in which personally i have made
linking in most of what i have posted
(and actually learned through out the course of time)

and post it up to share it with you all
most of what i am about to say
will be in bullet points and will be easy to follow up towards the main idea
which i want to say

so here we go :

* Yes you have the right to make mistakes
it is something essential in life for you to learn
no matter how hard the lesson is
it will teach you

*you may have the right to do mistakes
but don't forget that you also have to bear the consequences
to your wrong doings even if you did not like it
you cannot simply run away from the consequences especially if they are haunting you directly !

*Realization is a key factor
for the Arabic Proverb said
(if you knew that is a problem, and if you did not know then its a bigger problem)

it goes a long way into trying to solve the problem
for it is even before confessing having a problem
it is to realize it !

*OMG i doomed myself again !
yes that is the part where you can frantically panic
or just vent out in none aggressive none harmful manners

*solving the problem
after frantically panicking, you can now proceed to solve the problem
or try to solve it with what ever means available

just remember
you can "Doom" yourself many times
but preferably some want to avoid  (dooming oneself)
so it brings us to another point

* Think and study options
to minimize the mistakes that may occur

and thus we end this article
with a small little note

we don't actually take all that i have mentioned seriously
or even think about it !

Happy 2nd Birthday To the (not a life expert) Blog !

it was in this same timing as last year

where it started with an (AHA moment) 

and then continued through out 2 years now

giving out articles on various topics 

relating to people, life, and experiences worth sharing

and now continuing to the second year 

here we are celebrating 

all that is about life 

and about relationships

and the people who come together in to this unique mix

giving out an array of experience worth sharing

and things to talk about with people

and most importantly to learn and share with one another

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLOG ! 

may you continue on giving out topics 

and sharing thoughts with everyone else

learning and achieving too !

confrontation in conflict

Its natural to disagree

sometimes in order to agree you have to disagree

sometimes we tend to hold opinions in passion

and within the heated discussion of different opinion 

conflict occurs

it is all natural for people to disagree

and in the same time hold that certain opinion with passion 

and eventually lead to conflict of those opposing opinions

that is all natural due to the fact of having different personalities

and perceptions towards life in general and towards

thus translating all those in different vibes
and send out those vibes outwardly

we do come up to the main point

confrontation ,,,

many dread the fact that confrontation
(although it is the healthy way in dishing feelings, emotions, thoughts out)

that is because not everyone can handle a confrontation
which could lead to a negative outcome
if it is not talked out in a diplomatic way

although the right way is to take the confrontation way
but one must not take it especially
if the person who they are confronting are of unpredictable nature

(i know from a personal experience i won't (and i can't) dream on confronting that certain person who is known to have a very irritable disposition and who is also prone to just take it personally and also turn whatever topic and pin point a finger towards me)

* If you have the Diplomatic ability
* If you have the strength and courage
* If you can see beyond the minor irrelevant talk back from a person who confronts you

then you are safe to go ahead and confront

but if you fear for your life (the way i do)
then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE !

and take these preventive measures
(especially if you are facing a person of an irritable disposition)

* Avoid hitting sensitive points such as the famous "card shuffling" move
it only worsens the situations

* Try to take more creative options
although they only last temporarily

* learn more diplomatic ways in confrontation

* avoid stacking up feelings as they accumulate
 and then the main point which is suppose to be conveyed gets lost
within all the other things that accumulated

wishing you all a good confrontation =)
and a safe battle (LOL)

You have all the rights to be foolish and stupid, of course you will bear the consequences

Happy Eid Al-Adha

Dear readers from all over the world

may you have a blessed day where ever you are

the other day a random conversation with a stranger 

got me to think about happy endings

some do prefer to rely on that fuzzy warm heart happy ending 

which reassures the reader to a very happy ending that would occur eventually

(a debatable issue but nonetheless its something that dose reassure a person)

and some prefer to have an alternative ending

an open ending that has open possibilities 

it got me to thinking that

its always something for sure people would prefer to not risk it

and play it safe and thus gain that happy ending

and for some 

having a little risk is OK 

and we all know the more risk involved with something

the more the gains are from that thing

now the main part which made me think is that

in all this risk game that one makes

its a perfect balance 

its like a chess game cause one move you make effects the whole

game play that you have 

it is as if one must play it wisely 

and play it right 

or else its (checkmate) ! 

so is your life in the bigger picture we are trying to show

you have all the rights to be foolish

and be stupid

do foolish stupid things in life

however you are the master of your own demise !

go and do what ever you would want to do in life

however be responsible of what comes up from that later

seems easy enough of a lesson to try and learn

but quite hard to really apply 

since most of us tend to forget about it 

but then learn it again when it hits again

but fear not, for not everything in life can have bad consequences 

if it did not bring to you what you wanted

it taught you what you should know to avoid 

and not to do that mistake again 

it breaks you !

based on an article (which if i was not mistake) 

i wrote in, about the reasons of why we have bad things going on in our lives

yes it is quite often that we have many bad things that happen and occur in our lives

which are varying in the extent of damage that it brings

or in the extent of effect that it makes (The bad event) in our lives

now we do argue quite a lot 

on the event and how come this event had to happen to us

it goes in a varying degree of argument 

how we deal with the (bad event)

sure it is bad and sure it really is heavy on our hearts once this thing happens 

the other day i was watching a TV show 

which dealt with issues of this extent 

and then the presenter of the show said something that made me wonder

and made me write this article

You have be Broken 

bad things come along 

in order to break you

then from after that

it reconstructs you again

and as plain and simple as that sentences came out

it made me wonder

yes sometimes the bad event can be devastating 

(the loss of a loved one, traumatic event ...etc)

which is something incomparable to the minor problems or events

but yes sometimes you have to be broken in order to relive again

and to reconstruct yourself again

i still am searching for the answer to why you have to be broken

but i know i won't be able to find the answer 

but you would know for sure that no one has the answer for anything in life

and we are yet to discover many things

but in order for us to discover things 

we have to be broken 

in order to be reconstructed again !

Where do you see yourself in five years?

recently  friend of mine went through a job interview

of course we all have been through such things

asking typical questions

and asking quite the challenging ones

which extract and show the interviewer 

the depth of the interviewee's personality

it can range from simple questions like

(What best describes you?)

or it can be quite deep like

(What would you do if you were put in this certain situation and faced with certain issues?)

it may not seem like a deep question

but in general asking questions 

at a varying levels can show the depth of personality

but one questions stands outside the crowd 

its somewhat simple 

but in our story, our hero found it a bit challenging 

or more accurately made him think

and the question was

(Where do you see yourself in five years from now?)

some may have the answer to this question some may not have the answer 

some of us have that plan of what to do after those five years

and some don't 

and its not something bad not to have the plan for after five years

its because one cannot simply predict

what he could be doing within five years from now

based on where he is at in the present

some do have an idea based on his visioning,

but one forgets the present and how it has its effect too !

Dear Readers , DON'T PANIC !

just don't over think it

i know i have mentioned this as a topic to think about

however don't lose the grip of it all

the proverb states clearly

to neither dwell in the past nor the future 

in a way that we lose the present

rather live the present in order to build and progress

towards the future.