confrontation in conflict

Its natural to disagree

sometimes in order to agree you have to disagree

sometimes we tend to hold opinions in passion

and within the heated discussion of different opinion 

conflict occurs

it is all natural for people to disagree

and in the same time hold that certain opinion with passion 

and eventually lead to conflict of those opposing opinions

that is all natural due to the fact of having different personalities

and perceptions towards life in general and towards

thus translating all those in different vibes
and send out those vibes outwardly

we do come up to the main point

confrontation ,,,

many dread the fact that confrontation
(although it is the healthy way in dishing feelings, emotions, thoughts out)

that is because not everyone can handle a confrontation
which could lead to a negative outcome
if it is not talked out in a diplomatic way

although the right way is to take the confrontation way
but one must not take it especially
if the person who they are confronting are of unpredictable nature

(i know from a personal experience i won't (and i can't) dream on confronting that certain person who is known to have a very irritable disposition and who is also prone to just take it personally and also turn whatever topic and pin point a finger towards me)

* If you have the Diplomatic ability
* If you have the strength and courage
* If you can see beyond the minor irrelevant talk back from a person who confronts you

then you are safe to go ahead and confront

but if you fear for your life (the way i do)
then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE !

and take these preventive measures
(especially if you are facing a person of an irritable disposition)

* Avoid hitting sensitive points such as the famous "card shuffling" move
it only worsens the situations

* Try to take more creative options
although they only last temporarily

* learn more diplomatic ways in confrontation

* avoid stacking up feelings as they accumulate
 and then the main point which is suppose to be conveyed gets lost
within all the other things that accumulated

wishing you all a good confrontation =)
and a safe battle (LOL)

You have all the rights to be foolish and stupid, of course you will bear the consequences

Happy Eid Al-Adha

Dear readers from all over the world

may you have a blessed day where ever you are

the other day a random conversation with a stranger 

got me to think about happy endings

some do prefer to rely on that fuzzy warm heart happy ending 

which reassures the reader to a very happy ending that would occur eventually

(a debatable issue but nonetheless its something that dose reassure a person)

and some prefer to have an alternative ending

an open ending that has open possibilities 

it got me to thinking that

its always something for sure people would prefer to not risk it

and play it safe and thus gain that happy ending

and for some 

having a little risk is OK 

and we all know the more risk involved with something

the more the gains are from that thing

now the main part which made me think is that

in all this risk game that one makes

its a perfect balance 

its like a chess game cause one move you make effects the whole

game play that you have 

it is as if one must play it wisely 

and play it right 

or else its (checkmate) ! 

so is your life in the bigger picture we are trying to show

you have all the rights to be foolish

and be stupid

do foolish stupid things in life

however you are the master of your own demise !

go and do what ever you would want to do in life

however be responsible of what comes up from that later

seems easy enough of a lesson to try and learn

but quite hard to really apply 

since most of us tend to forget about it 

but then learn it again when it hits again

but fear not, for not everything in life can have bad consequences 

if it did not bring to you what you wanted

it taught you what you should know to avoid 

and not to do that mistake again 

it breaks you !

based on an article (which if i was not mistake) 

i wrote in, about the reasons of why we have bad things going on in our lives

yes it is quite often that we have many bad things that happen and occur in our lives

which are varying in the extent of damage that it brings

or in the extent of effect that it makes (The bad event) in our lives

now we do argue quite a lot 

on the event and how come this event had to happen to us

it goes in a varying degree of argument 

how we deal with the (bad event)

sure it is bad and sure it really is heavy on our hearts once this thing happens 

the other day i was watching a TV show 

which dealt with issues of this extent 

and then the presenter of the show said something that made me wonder

and made me write this article

You have be Broken 

bad things come along 

in order to break you

then from after that

it reconstructs you again

and as plain and simple as that sentences came out

it made me wonder

yes sometimes the bad event can be devastating 

(the loss of a loved one, traumatic event ...etc)

which is something incomparable to the minor problems or events

but yes sometimes you have to be broken in order to relive again

and to reconstruct yourself again

i still am searching for the answer to why you have to be broken

but i know i won't be able to find the answer 

but you would know for sure that no one has the answer for anything in life

and we are yet to discover many things

but in order for us to discover things 

we have to be broken 

in order to be reconstructed again !

Where do you see yourself in five years?

recently  friend of mine went through a job interview

of course we all have been through such things

asking typical questions

and asking quite the challenging ones

which extract and show the interviewer 

the depth of the interviewee's personality

it can range from simple questions like

(What best describes you?)

or it can be quite deep like

(What would you do if you were put in this certain situation and faced with certain issues?)

it may not seem like a deep question

but in general asking questions 

at a varying levels can show the depth of personality

but one questions stands outside the crowd 

its somewhat simple 

but in our story, our hero found it a bit challenging 

or more accurately made him think

and the question was

(Where do you see yourself in five years from now?)

some may have the answer to this question some may not have the answer 

some of us have that plan of what to do after those five years

and some don't 

and its not something bad not to have the plan for after five years

its because one cannot simply predict

what he could be doing within five years from now

based on where he is at in the present

some do have an idea based on his visioning,

but one forgets the present and how it has its effect too !

Dear Readers , DON'T PANIC !

just don't over think it

i know i have mentioned this as a topic to think about

however don't lose the grip of it all

the proverb states clearly

to neither dwell in the past nor the future 

in a way that we lose the present

rather live the present in order to build and progress

towards the future.

a festive Eid to think of things !

Greetings and happy eid al fitr 

to all Muslim brethren 

my god accept your good deed 

and your faithful duties 

now this eid has a bit of a twist to it

as i was enjoying my time with my family

i have just reflected on certain things

and thought about many issues

of course one thing remained in my mind 

the whole process 

and i thought to myself

i should be thankful 

yes with many bad things occurring and with all that is happening in the world   

one cannot help but think thankful

its enough to be thankful for the fact that one can spend 

this time with the people he cares for the most

that is one thing

and its true quite a lot of bad things are happening now a days

but it only makes us think of how we take things for granted

we don't realize it until it hits us

and yes all the rest just follows in perfectly

how the fact that you are alive and well

and you are spending a nice time with the people you love the most

so yes ... in the spirit of eid al fitr

and in accordance to my last article that i wrote

about being thankful

i am this eid thankful for all that i am having at the moment

and for all that i am getting !

Rebirths

at certain points in life
we all experience that moment

of when we start all over again
or start with a clean slate

or more accurately
start anew with a (Rebirth)

recently we all had quite a shock
when my father has gotten his retirement process speed up

we were all at shock
although now that all is settled
we all see that
this is just a another moment in life
when we experience a rebirth

a new situation
a new life
a new scenario

all this telling us that life is ever chaining
and in every second there is something new

and that it is never ending
and at any minute you can have
a moment of

(Rebirth)

that awful point of stagnation

well ... talking from a personal point of view

have you ever reached that point of stagnation ?

i mean OK stagnation is a big word

it mainly means in general terms

reaching to a point where you are stuck in

economically 

that prolonged period of slow economic growth

in other terms 

(Stuck in a rut) 

that is painful isn't it ?

(talking personally)

feeling as if you are stuck in a position you dislike

with no sense of direction

and certainly no hopes for a better tomorrow

i know it hurts 

knowing that you are filled with dreams and hopes 

for that better tomorrow

you feel that you are stuck in a current situation that dose not

help you to achieve that better tomorrow

but you know what?

its time to stop !

to stop all that

and to begin again

yes you can all get out of that evil thing called (stuck in a rut)

and achieve the better tomorrow you dreamed of 

first you have to know the situation that you are stuck in

it can be stuck in a job, or that your life has become into a rhythmic systematic routine 

in order to break the cycle that you are in

secondly you have to believe in yourself

its a key important thing to do, one needs to believe that he is capable

of adapting a thought and believing that he can achieve it

add to that a positive mind set which can help you to continue with your thought

then we start with the tricky part

what you should do next !

its a perfect opportunity to see where you are in life

meaning to set for yourself goals and objectives to be achieved

this way it will make your 

recalling what you really wanted to achieve 

or wanted to do which in turn will get you moving

that is of course if you are moving rather than staying put

doing the latter will actually enhance your situation of being stuck in a rut

SO lets all get up and lets all get out of that awful dreaded situation 

i personally will do that !