the greatest human experience (4)

its always amazing how it is

the human experience

how you meet with great people along the way

and learn quite a lot

i urge you all my dear readers 

to just take the chance and have a bite 

of how it is the human experience ~

back to the topic

i did mention above how it is amazing to find great people in your life

amazing people

how you get the chance to meet them

and have a great time with them 

having many experiences

feeling a lot of things 

a new lesson that i have learned 

in which i still think about till this minute 

do good things come to an end ?

the answer is still under research

but the story behind it goes as follows

have you ever fell in love ?

that it was so true 

that you live great moments with 

and you live day by day 

knowing how great it is 

and then you come to that day

that you knew it was coming

but never thought it would come so soon

yes my dear readers

i have fell in love

i have experienced it for what it is

i have tasted it 

i know how it feels 

i know how it goes

i knew that one day it may take a unknown turn

but i have never thought that the day would come so soon

i only have one thing to confess 

that i have no regrets what so ever

again we tend to forget that one lesson 

that our time is limited 

that we should make the best of what he have

and yes that is what i intend to do

but in the end of the day

i learn from that lesson

i grow stronger

i become a better (me)

and who knows 

we all know that it could be the end 

but we can make it the beginning 

and i hope you all learn as well from your own lessons

my dear readers

and grow strong 

and become a better (you) 

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what happened ?

well i chose this title for starters

because the nature of the situation that i saw was a bit 

confusing and rather interesting to share with you all 

it could be a situation some of you have went through

i leave the comments for you all to judge on this matter

so lets start ..... 

it happened as a family of 4 the father and three sons 

went for the usual "juma-Friday" prayers

and as they took one of the cars which belonged to the family

(incidentally they took the one which the younger son rides frequently)

the father noticed as he was going into the car how the car was in a bit

unclean he protested on this thing 

and as soon as the son (who rides the car) came in 

he started complaining on how the car is messy

and how it is not so clean 

and scolded the son for that

of course the son kept silent 

and all went well they family rode the car and started moving towards the Masjid

along the way the father kept on rambling and started shuffling cards

(shuffling cards as in started bringing irrelevant issues to the matter just because of the unclean car)

along with the card shuffling the father started talking badly (which was not accepted)

the son quickly protested on this matter 

and the issue died as soon as the protest was risen 

everyone kept silent all along the way ....

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now after seeing this story (which was told by a friend of mine)

we see here many issues 

where do you begin with?

sometimes people get carried away with their emotions

and they do misbehave and talk badly

and sometimes it is ( as much as its not fair and really not acceptable) unfortunate

to see this example of how people badly just shuffle irrelevant issues just to 

scold people out and to get the chance to nail them 

when ever and where ever at any point 

it could also be a mistake when the son protested on how badly the father started talking

but the main point was how the car was unclean 

it was only a simple issue 

which could have been resolved 

without even scolding 

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dear readers this serves as a story with moral for you all to learn many lessons from

take it however you want and share it with everyone 

and do not hesitate to express what you feel from this topic 

as this is an open space for everyone 

to learn from one another

Drained out?

as time goes by

and as surroundings change in life

you cannot help but feel sometimes 

a bit down

or feel a bit not really doing your best

you would feel that there is something missing

that there is something out there waiting for you 

but you just don't know what it is

or how to get it !

you would feel as if you have reach a point of "saturation"

so to speak 

a stagnant point 

where you feel you are stuck at a point

and its just "Nothing"

nothing in the sense of not going either up or down

or heading towards a certain direction

or maybe heading towards a direction but its not the desired one at all

and here comes the part where i "personally" would say

" Its Totally Normal ! "

we do find ourselves in unexpected detours and turns

(as i have mentioned in previous articles)

but for now ...

how do we take the other route out of this situation ?

well we can ... live in that situation and see where it takes you to 

(not exactly recommended if you are looking for a quick solution like me)

OR 

try something out of the ordinary

keep on seeking that thing that you are looking for in life

try one day to break the monotonous routine 

(which of course brought you to this position in the first place)

and perhaps along the way you will find something 

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Please share with us what you think about this matter

if you can relate to it some way or another

and share with us your story 

we all can learn from each other =)

Let go ...

I have grown a habit of starting my blog articles with

the opening phrase

Lets face it ...

so,

Lets face it (lol)

we (including me) have this undying want to know the uncertain 

and the unknown

that of course is because we have that fear from it 

we fear from that uncertainty and that great unknown that is lurking 

at the far(or near) distance of time

that may come with great (or bad) turn of events accordingly

and it turns out to be some sort of fear ...

fear from what could happen

and what could be 

well fear can be a useful emotion 

if experienced properly at certain degrees

it can give you that (needed alarm) or it can be a notifying tick 

to let you know that there is something that you need to pay attention to

and yes once you pay attention to that fear 

or that gut instinct or what ever that is knocking in the back of your head

you then get so alarmed and maybe you would go on the verge of over thinking things in your mind, and experience a truckload of emotions

its only when you let go

and try to have that "freedom from fear"

where you can accept the present and live in it

and forget about the past and what it had

and not think about the future and what it may bring

its all in the moment that you are living in !

it will be hard to let go 

but put this in mind

until when will you keep on grasping 

let go and go with the flow

for no one holds an answer of what can happen

and what could occur

so ...

let go ...

YOU REALLY DON'T NEED TO PLAY THE GUILT GAME

back again after some time away

with a topic i am sure most of us faced

now it may be on many levels

it can occur like a small pinch, or like a new world war !

well its actually a game some people love to play

and they play it for many reasons

some have apparent reasons

others just like to play it cause its in them to just play that way

i am talking about the guilt card (or the guilt game)

so how do they play this game?

well it starts with a situation cause it needs one

then it is played by just saying sentences like these: 

"i always cared for you but you never cared for me"

or like this one

"we never see much of you, do you hate us?"

or like this one

"why do you always run when your phone rings, don't you like sitting with us?"

how about this i bet most of you heard it some time ago

"other kids care for their mothers, you barely do so to me, don't you like me?"

or how about this one, which i just got recently

" you always have appointments on Saturday lunch time, don't you wanna spend some time with us?"

or this one which has a bit of a rough tone

"what's with you? oh you got a headache? dose it prevent you from having some time with us? "

the list will go on forever and ever, and by now i believe most of you got some of those

phrases above, it only means that the guilt card was played on you !

now do not bother because these come for a reason

its just a not so subtle way of saying 

"PLEASE CARE FOR US FOR THE LOVE OF GOD"

most of us do not have the gift of expressing the strong feelings

the above ones as an example

thus having to play the card

to just "unstably pinch for attention"

Things can be simple if :

* just say it clearly and outwardly 

no need to go about that "sneaky" way of trying to get someones attention cause frankly you are

only making that person grow more stubborn !

*learn what to say before saying it

don't just say it straight flat out to the face

try having some sort of "smooth way" in delivering it to the face

cause you might hurt some feelings too if you said wrongly !

and if you ever get played well ....

you can either play along, or just stop it at its place 

or just let it fly off 

greatest human experience (3)

another amazing thing

happened to me the other day 

which just shows how great it is the human experience 

which may differ sometimes

it could be a happy thing, it could be a sad thing

but one thing is for sure 

is that it really is such a great experience

and that most of the time we learn from these experiences 

these teach us quite a lot

and reminds us of lessons that we have learnt before

but have forgotten by time

its just amazing how sometimes

people can come into our lives and shine light to it

surely they are totally amazing people

who i am pretty sure might leave our lives dim 

if they were to leave

but yesterday as i was having an interesting conversation

which somewhere in the middle

reminded me of one of those forgotten lessons in life

of remembering that our time is limited in life

we all are bound to leave at some point in time

and that we should all make the best of everything we have

at the present time ....

it was a lesson hard to swallow  

for it came from a loved one 

where deep down the fear of loss haunts us constantly

but remembering that lesson

that one important lesson eases the pain 

(although it will still remain)

hoping for a better tomorrow 

knowing it will still sting 

that is what we only have at this point in time

though this article of the "greatest human experience"

seems a bit ... incoherent 

and may seem a bit dark

it has quite a (sad side to it)

it is dedicated to those lessons that we have

long forgotten

and that we have remembered them by a loved one 

(a message intended for that person)

Never forget to take good care of yourself !

signed by all the people who care about you 

the yearly analysis

as a usual tradition

with only few days left for the new year

a thing i always do

(a yearly analysis plan)

where in you look back into the year

and look at all the things that you have gained, the things you lost, the lessons you had learned

and so on and so forth

and so its also my part into looking to what my year has given me

and what i have been able to do

its a way to imrpove one's self

to look into ones achievements

and to grow

along with that you might want to make a rough sketch of draft

for your new year resolution

although doubt dose arise

on whether it will be done or not

besides that point

its always good to see what you have done, and to reflect on what you may do later on

i suggest you all try it, even if you were doubtful of that happening !