WHY ME ?

hello again dear readers

yes i have been abcent for sometime but here i am again

and at this time of abcense from this small humble space

i have been living life, to try and capture something from it

to share it with you all

plentyfull are the things that i have captured

during this time but lets begin with the title of this topic

(WHY ME?)

recently i have personally encountered a few situations,

problems shall we say

and of course, probelms come in bulk

they dont come in single packages

they always come in one problem successing another one

and in the middle of it all

it just makes you scream out from the top of your lungs

(WHY ME?)

why is it that all those problems are happening to me?

and its happening to only me?

how come only me who gets all these problems?

(WHY ME?)

truth be told this happens to all of us

its not just one person who gets problems

we all get problems one way or another

and yes they do come in different ways and forums

but its not always a (WHY ME) situation

from a previous article i have mentioned that dire situations occure

at any moment in life

its how we are all sculptured to be the best people we are

thus the reason for those problems to come in bulk

and to come personally to us is to make us the best that we are !

there is always a reason for the things that happen to us in our life

difficult or easy or whatever situation it is, there is a reason and there is a purpose

its not always a WHY ME situation !

and if it were to be a WHY ME situation,

then ... deffinitly you are looking at the situation from a wrong angel



Time management

It was a personal story

That started all of this talk about "time management"

And it goes a little like this:

A friend of mine sat with me for a cup of coffee and explained

How a "mutual friend" we have, is falling behind from doing the things he want to do

And he keeps on going on and talking about how he fell completely behind of everything

He lacks the time to finish up small minor tasks that can be finished in minimum required time

He lacks the ability to concentrate on a single task

He cannot say no to certain tasks and prioritize thus accumulating alot 

He dose not have sense of time where everything is somewhat lost

And for him to plan for something he would need time to do it

Then gets back to do the job

This is one typical situation is a “book case” for a time management issue

And time management is just as easy as “ABC”

With few basic guidelines to set personally

Simple prioritization of tasks

With determination and concentration on the task being worked on

And some sort of knowledge of the day ahead and the tasks that may follow

You can avoid such situations

Were everything is lost and everything is disorganized

The worst thing to have in this issue

Is to lose things because of lacking time management skills

When the problem is simple and can be solved and is avoidable

%5 - %95

First of all dear readers

a very happy "Belated" eid to you all

may the blessings of the almighty be bestowed upon you all

Secondly moving on to our main topic of discussion

and to our subject of writting and sharing

i recently recalled an interesting meeting, boring topic to be honest

and surely it was a scam i was being convinced to get into

besides that point

the interesting part which i recalled from that conversation

was when the person talking started off with this phrase which i quote

" there are two catagories which the people in the world fit in , %5 and %95"

and she explained and elaborated more on the topic saying :

%95 are the people who live life on a very mundane routine

eat- sleep -work ..etc

%5 are the people who want to live off on the extreme

doing something a bit different for a change

this small part i recall, from all "uninteresting" attempt into trying to sell me a concept

and this part is the only part which i still like to think about more, and now to elaborate it more into an article

it seems to be true, we tend to fit either or into these two catagories, we either live off life on the extreme

or live it like the %95 percent of the population on this planet

(eat - sleep - work ...etc)

some feel more inclined towards living off life safely

and its due to their own perspective in this issue

and ofcourse some are inclined towards living in the extreme trying to live each day

as if its the last day on earth

life objectives play a part in this matter too, since its those objectives that give out a reason

to live each day in life, not just to live it off (eating, sleeping, working)

to think about it we all will try and explre that part sooner or later

since we might fall eventually into the prison of mundane routine

and come to think about it, life is short

love, play, enjoy, laugh, forgive and forget

your mere exsitance on this planet (or in this life) is limited

living the bulk of it doing all that mundane activities is wasteful

Get an objective to live for in life, and then work for it ! 

comfort zones

first i would like to apologize for it may seem 

that i haven't posted this article earlier 

i recently started my "Industrial Training" 

and i have now spent my first week there 

all in all it was a great first week which certainly is an experience to talk about 

and it goes like this :

-a week earlier-

i signed up for my industrial training at the same company my dad is working in

so they call me up and say that i will be starting off right about the beginning of the week

much to my surprise my father came to me and said: Guess what? you will be also working with me

in the same section i am in !!!!

there i thought hard about the last sentence that was said 

(the same section i am in) 

the only thing that went through my mind was

this could be the best thing i have ever heard or ...

the worst thing that could ever happen !

thus the week began and i started work 

i felt so miserable for some reason i thought maybe

i should have been somewhere else

i should have been doing something else

something better

anything in anywhere at least not this !

however, as the days went by at the job i discover slowly how it was not bad after all 

yeah sure there is that shivering feeling that you have family just a cubicle away from you

and that you will have to go to work and see family there !

but all in all this was suppose to happen 

i was suppose to step out of the "comfort zone"

we need to face challenges and see them as opportunities !

we tend to be like that 

we tend to want predictability and stability

we tend to seek out that monotonous life 

which has order,stability, regularity, predictability!

we end up having a boring uninspired life, then we seek out that opportunity to get out of this vicious thing

that we went into, however we then feel that sudden fear of the uncertain, and that feeling that you want to crawl back to the monotonous routine you used to have !

WELL THEN IT"S TIME TO SEPT OF OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE

you are bound to step out any time you might as well prepare your self to it 

so start going out of your comfort zone and get rid of all your fears

don't miss out on what life might bring you

you can start off small 

try something new, it can be anything, it could be a

- new hair cut

-taking on new hobbies

-change the activities that you used to do

its all this small "painless" activities that can help you step out of that comfort zone 

and remember you also need a proper mind set, its the proper thinking and positive attitude, that also helps out in such situation which keeps you going on !

Miss-communications

we all know the process of communications

where by one message travels through a medium to get to the receiver by a sender

to begin our topic let us check out this conversation which occurred via (Instant messaging) 

Person A : All i wanted is for you to care, and not to criticize

I really did not want to hear anyone tell me that i should have known better !

Person B: again you are nagging about nothing and going on with the drama !

Person A : i am sorry i may have said a lot but i just said what was on my mind 

and spilled what is in my heart 

Person B : I really don't have the time for this

BYE

This snippet of a conversation that happened recently to someone i know, who came to me with confusion 

and a bit of sadness too , this dear readers is the root of miss-communications which can occur on any level

friendship, relationships, spouses, even in the work place

it happens because of not disclosing information, or even misinterpreting information 

that and (not to fully blame it) technology had its hand in it, due to the advent of High speed communications

(Emails, Instant messaging ...etc) 

communicating got devalued from the face-to-face communication 

it has became what is known as (asynchronous) wow that is a big word LOL

that is a factor since what happened in that conversation occurred through instant messaging 

and due to that, we would tend to do alot of mistakes through out the process

which can actually make it more worse

since we as human beings, at such situations we tend to assume the worst scenario 

Example : He must be hiding something !!!

and we would leave out other factors and other possibilities and focus on the

worst scenario 

(Person B might be having a rough day and probably did not need more stress)

its actually the latter, that we need the most at such situations

we need to have that open mind, we need to have that logic to keep us from wandering off

to worst possible scenarios thus decisions !

However we would not be able to fend those thoughts off 

but we can enlist them as one possibility out of numerous possibilities !

(again there could be many reasons)

to avoid such situation in the future one can also avoid "Demanding" 

demanding is just one way of bossing around in relationships 

and is a miss-communicated work objective

(if a worker cannot see that, it is his job to work as he his required too)

 sympathy and understanding along with consideration

must be taken into account to be able to have an effective communication 

and also we should remember 

what is said can be different from what you think you understood 

those go into two extremes (Saying and understanding what really was said in the process)

one should also put into consideration that sometimes along the process one can get carried away 

emotionally ... which is a big mistake because mistakes (by default) occur within the heap of the moment

in the end it pays to just listen and see what is wrong 

to finally reach into an understanding and to solve the problems !

PS have a blessed Ramadhan dear readers =)  

EVERYTHING goes wrong !

Once a teacher at university said something

that still echos in my mind these days

or at any situation of that similar theme 

she was talking about the project (which was required for us to do)

and along the conversation and explanation, she said:

" now i know most of you work in the last minute, but take note

that the day you will work, or the day you plan on finishing up what you are suppose to finish

EVERYTHING WILL GO WRONG

whether its a printer problem, whether its a file problem, whether you are finalizing things

EVERYTHING WILL GO WRONG "

and she was right about it, 

cause it seems to be when ever we plan on doing something 

then when we are half way of doing it

*DING*

something wrong happens 

that is just the way it is !

something MUST go wrong 

something MUST happen 

HOWEVER 

you can choose not to fall into this vicious cycle 

once you realize this fact 

you can always do a "PLAN B"

although i will have to say plan B is not always the best way to go

HOWEVER 

you can still manage it out ...

when everything goes wrong !

Time away

WOW it has been such a long time

since i came here and just wrote

about anything at all .... 

truth is that is natural to happen 

to be away from the things that you like 

for a considerable long amount of time

not because you chose to do so

but it gives your head some break 

and surely gives more chance for creativity to flow in

time out or time off is just about the right thing to do

to get you head out of things and give it a rest

to get back again and do what you always like to do 

and so here i am back again 

trying to do what i always like to do

Just write ....