comfort zones

first i would like to apologize for it may seem 

that i haven't posted this article earlier 

i recently started my "Industrial Training" 

and i have now spent my first week there 

all in all it was a great first week which certainly is an experience to talk about 

and it goes like this :

-a week earlier-

i signed up for my industrial training at the same company my dad is working in

so they call me up and say that i will be starting off right about the beginning of the week

much to my surprise my father came to me and said: Guess what? you will be also working with me

in the same section i am in !!!!

there i thought hard about the last sentence that was said 

(the same section i am in) 

the only thing that went through my mind was

this could be the best thing i have ever heard or ...

the worst thing that could ever happen !

thus the week began and i started work 

i felt so miserable for some reason i thought maybe

i should have been somewhere else

i should have been doing something else

something better

anything in anywhere at least not this !

however, as the days went by at the job i discover slowly how it was not bad after all 

yeah sure there is that shivering feeling that you have family just a cubicle away from you

and that you will have to go to work and see family there !

but all in all this was suppose to happen 

i was suppose to step out of the "comfort zone"

we need to face challenges and see them as opportunities !

we tend to be like that 

we tend to want predictability and stability

we tend to seek out that monotonous life 

which has order,stability, regularity, predictability!

we end up having a boring uninspired life, then we seek out that opportunity to get out of this vicious thing

that we went into, however we then feel that sudden fear of the uncertain, and that feeling that you want to crawl back to the monotonous routine you used to have !

WELL THEN IT"S TIME TO SEPT OF OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE

you are bound to step out any time you might as well prepare your self to it 

so start going out of your comfort zone and get rid of all your fears

don't miss out on what life might bring you

you can start off small 

try something new, it can be anything, it could be a

- new hair cut

-taking on new hobbies

-change the activities that you used to do

its all this small "painless" activities that can help you step out of that comfort zone 

and remember you also need a proper mind set, its the proper thinking and positive attitude, that also helps out in such situation which keeps you going on !

Miss-communications

we all know the process of communications

where by one message travels through a medium to get to the receiver by a sender

to begin our topic let us check out this conversation which occurred via (Instant messaging) 

Person A : All i wanted is for you to care, and not to criticize

I really did not want to hear anyone tell me that i should have known better !

Person B: again you are nagging about nothing and going on with the drama !

Person A : i am sorry i may have said a lot but i just said what was on my mind 

and spilled what is in my heart 

Person B : I really don't have the time for this

BYE

This snippet of a conversation that happened recently to someone i know, who came to me with confusion 

and a bit of sadness too , this dear readers is the root of miss-communications which can occur on any level

friendship, relationships, spouses, even in the work place

it happens because of not disclosing information, or even misinterpreting information 

that and (not to fully blame it) technology had its hand in it, due to the advent of High speed communications

(Emails, Instant messaging ...etc) 

communicating got devalued from the face-to-face communication 

it has became what is known as (asynchronous) wow that is a big word LOL

that is a factor since what happened in that conversation occurred through instant messaging 

and due to that, we would tend to do alot of mistakes through out the process

which can actually make it more worse

since we as human beings, at such situations we tend to assume the worst scenario 

Example : He must be hiding something !!!

and we would leave out other factors and other possibilities and focus on the

worst scenario 

(Person B might be having a rough day and probably did not need more stress)

its actually the latter, that we need the most at such situations

we need to have that open mind, we need to have that logic to keep us from wandering off

to worst possible scenarios thus decisions !

However we would not be able to fend those thoughts off 

but we can enlist them as one possibility out of numerous possibilities !

(again there could be many reasons)

to avoid such situation in the future one can also avoid "Demanding" 

demanding is just one way of bossing around in relationships 

and is a miss-communicated work objective

(if a worker cannot see that, it is his job to work as he his required too)

 sympathy and understanding along with consideration

must be taken into account to be able to have an effective communication 

and also we should remember 

what is said can be different from what you think you understood 

those go into two extremes (Saying and understanding what really was said in the process)

one should also put into consideration that sometimes along the process one can get carried away 

emotionally ... which is a big mistake because mistakes (by default) occur within the heap of the moment

in the end it pays to just listen and see what is wrong 

to finally reach into an understanding and to solve the problems !

PS have a blessed Ramadhan dear readers =)  

EVERYTHING goes wrong !

Once a teacher at university said something

that still echos in my mind these days

or at any situation of that similar theme 

she was talking about the project (which was required for us to do)

and along the conversation and explanation, she said:

" now i know most of you work in the last minute, but take note

that the day you will work, or the day you plan on finishing up what you are suppose to finish

EVERYTHING WILL GO WRONG

whether its a printer problem, whether its a file problem, whether you are finalizing things

EVERYTHING WILL GO WRONG "

and she was right about it, 

cause it seems to be when ever we plan on doing something 

then when we are half way of doing it

*DING*

something wrong happens 

that is just the way it is !

something MUST go wrong 

something MUST happen 

HOWEVER 

you can choose not to fall into this vicious cycle 

once you realize this fact 

you can always do a "PLAN B"

although i will have to say plan B is not always the best way to go

HOWEVER 

you can still manage it out ...

when everything goes wrong !

Time away

WOW it has been such a long time

since i came here and just wrote

about anything at all .... 

truth is that is natural to happen 

to be away from the things that you like 

for a considerable long amount of time

not because you chose to do so

but it gives your head some break 

and surely gives more chance for creativity to flow in

time out or time off is just about the right thing to do

to get you head out of things and give it a rest

to get back again and do what you always like to do 

and so here i am back again 

trying to do what i always like to do

Just write ....

times of crisis

Hello dear readers and followers

finally i have been able to come back to my blog

and to writing

after some time off cause of matters out of control 

i have been able to cope and return back

which brings us all to the topic of today 

(times of crisis)

now in a very broad definition of "crisis"

it is known to be as certain hurdle, difficulty, set back in life

the "crisis" can be anything, it could be personal

it could be external it could be just a small thing

but the person concerned with that matter sees it a big thing

we all face some sort of crisis in life

and its this point where we differ in, which is handling it!

most of us differ in their coping mechanism

towards the issues they face

some might break (literally) under pressure

some have high resiliency to what ever problems they face

BOTTOM LINE

crisis happen to test us 

and to teach us that life is not constant 

its ever so dynamic and changing 

at one point we are somewhere in another point we are somewhere else!

crisis MAKE us and create the real person that we are

am fine ... i guess

sometimes we never realize what we are doing

until we get that "smack on the head" 

or 

have someone make us realize 

which is of course better than the first scenario !

it happened to me, some time ago 

i was out and i was going to meet up with some mates to finalize a university project

where coincidently i bumped into another friend 

we exchanged greetings and then one of my team mates for the project 

came and was also a mutual friend and so the three of us had an interesting conversation

where somewhere along the way i said this sentence :

"i am fine i guess" 

not realizing that i said it, one of the friends brought it up in a very humorous way 

saying : every time we ask you how are you you say your fine ... i guess !

at that moment i realized that i said that sentence 

and a rush of thoughts came racing through my brain 

one of the thoughts where " AM I PREDICTABLE ?" 

surely the matter is beyond predictability 

after that incident it actually made me realize a lot

about myself and how i see the world around me

after that, i started trying to change myself or at least 

think of that incident and try to change myself 

and again this has a lot to do with the power of realization

which i talked about in a previous article 

to be able to realize and then to be able to read the signs 

or read the writing on the wall 

then to take actions!

some of us are lucky to get that smack 

or more better have someone makes us think !

Note: this article i would love to dedicate this article

to the person who really made me realize 

and would like to say 

"Thank you Ahmad, it might have been a humorous reply but it made me think" 

social phobia

may sound strange 

but is actually serious and true

surely human beings have phobias and such

which are developed through biological, environmental and cognitive causes

one phobia which grasped my attention 

"which happened because of a situation"

is the social phobia

yes it dose sound funny to be scared of social 

activities or social interactions, but surely that is something real

and probably some of us encountered some sort of situation

within this context

people not being capable of handling a conversation 

fear of approaching people 

even if it was to just ask them a question like 

"what time is it?"

or even feeling awkward seeing an old acquaintance

you had a conversation with before 

in an occasion or even in a public place

and avoiding them or not approaching them to greet them

these situations can be indicators to having something of the problem

but when it reaches to the point of fearing to leave the house

then definitely there is a bigger problem

with the first situation it is normal somehow

but of course not good 

we do tend to feel a bit uneasy among certain people

or through certain events where you meet new people

some of us have the ability to handle such situations

some don't however its not much of a problem

but if it reached to the point of fearing to leave the house

and even fearing to be around people or being around

crowds of people the problem has to be dealt with !

having social skills actually exert and show a more

confident outlay 

and people actually tend to get attracted to confidence